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writes:My boyfriend of more than one year told me that he loves me and that he'll never break up with me. He said that if we break up, it will be because of me. My brain went blank for a few moments when he told me this, so I don't want to re-open this topic with him. I know he loves me and that he'd never cheat on me and the same goes for me. He's not the jealous type of guy, to check on the moves I make, because he trusts me, so I think that he's got no reason to say that if we end it, it will be my fault. I thought that he might consider no one else but me... What do you think?
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (14 October 2010):
 I guess he just meant it's more possible that you get tired of him than viceversa.
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reader, Madalo 1  +, writes (14 October 2010):
Its not serious really. I think what he means is that he loves you so much and he's dedicated to you therefore there's no way the relationship can end because of him ie cheating, or being a jerk. It doesnt mean that he's expecting you to mess up, he's just trying to emphasise that he's into the relationship with both feet. And on the point that he might consider no one else but you, its possible that it might be so but i'd advise you not to take him for granted coz no matter how much they love you but when you start taking them for granted they change slowly and one day it will be like a shocker in your face to see them with someone else or just breaking up with you. So, love your boyfriend, appreciate him. He has already told you that he's into this thing; if things go sour,he'll not be the cause of it. All the best!
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 October 2010): You two sound A-OK to me. But talk about everything that you are both unsure of and confused about. Just letting these small things slide and fade away have a way of hurting the mind.
I say similar things to my girlfriend. I don’t want to hurt her, but if she wants to move on and be happy then I'll be fine with her decision. Hence: I'm not the one who's going to do the breaking up.
Being in a relationship means being open to love as well as pain and sorrows. So ‘talk’ about everything; or else you will always be guessing about what each other are thinking and feeling.
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reader, FluffyPie +, writes (14 October 2010):
FluffyPie is verified as being by the original poster of the question We have a good communication, but he said it while stroking my hair, my face and my lips and I found this kind of scary... I mean talking to me on a reassuring way, but firm and made it sound like a menace. We don't have too many conversations of this kind, we're a happy couple. But when we have it, I don't know what to tell him, because I feel like my mind goes blank. So how do I open this topic, when otherwise we have such a great time together? We're getting along great, we mutually accept our flaws and we're getting married next year.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (14 October 2010):
I think he's a little bit controlling, and a bit immature to suggest that a couple's problems or the reasons they break up are solely based on the other person. This comment is a wake up call. You don't need to split from him over this, but it would be worth your time sitting down and really thinking about this relationship. Make sure that you're both putting in effort, that you're both happy and that you're getting enough from him. It seems to me that he has a bit of growing up to do.
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