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writes:my boyfriend treats his sister more like a girlfriend than me. he buys her really expensive things and treats her all of the time, giving her spending money and he says he's going to go half with her for her tv, it's like it's his daughter. i don't know, i just don't understand.also, he doesn't do things with me because of her. if i'm at his we have to sit with her and if i go to bed he says i don't make any effort.she's always watching me and him, always looking at him. they haven't got bedroom doors either and she leaves the bathroom light on when she sleeps, which means i can't sleep for the light.she's 22 and he's 19. they have no parents. i'm totally confused! i don't have any brothers and sisters so i don't understand the relationship.. but it's driving me crazy.helpppp! :(
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reader, Jmtmj  +, writes (22 May 2010):
 I'd do the same for my sister. Partners come and go, but family always comes first. Either get used to it or get out because you can't get between them or you'll find yourself on the curb.
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reader, Duckyhelp +, writes (21 May 2010):
 Like you say, they have no parents, always? or recently?Either way they are looking out for one another.Siblings usualy do this once they have got over the fighting all the time stage. I think you should either accept it, like you should, or just move on.Cause obviously family is important to him.
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reader, KeighleySky +, writes (21 May 2010):
 They have no parents. I hate to say this because it goes against my female independance but she is a woman and they have no parents, he is the man and although she's older she relies on him. You cant turn around and blame her for how her brother mothers her. Mabe she needs it have you ever considered that she's vulnerable and that she needs her brother to lean on for support. I know me and my brother lean on each other since our parents split when we were little, i need him and he needs me. He cant help wanting to protect his sister and he does it in his own way, your jiust going to have to accept that maybe you do come second, but thats because she needs him more than you do. Dont let this ruin your relationship, love means sacrifice. :) x
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (21 May 2010):
 I think you are jealous. And you don't agree with his money-spending. Accept that it is his money and he can buy what he wants and spend it on who he wants. I believe most people would rather buy their sibling a tv than their gf's/bf's. At least it stays in the family that way, and you know they won't just suddenly ditch you for another guy. Buy a sleep mask to cover your eyes with so you get some sleep at night. Accept this behaviour from him, or find a new man. Thats it plain and simple.
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