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writes: Is it possible to fancy someone you hardly know? This guy in my year at school is so cute and seems really nice and funny, and i know he likes some of the same stuff as i do. But I've only ever actually spoken to him once, so we're not even 'friends'. But recently I've developed like this HUGE crush on him - i think about him like all the time. But what can i do about it? I have no opportunity to speak to him and get to know him better. Do i just try and get over him? Help please! x
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 January 2011): I would like to say it's true love... But I usually don't believe in that first sight thing. So... crush at first sight? I don't know, I'm sort of expierencing the same thing right now, which is why I'm at this question.The best thing is to get to know him, and do it fast. He is saying hi to you now, you don't want to wait a few weeks and then talk to him. No offense or anything to you, but he may forget. I don't know everything, but the worst thing possible is daydreaming about him and waking up to find he forgot your conversations.The other answer was good-- little things. Waving in the hall is a bold move for him, so he's intrested. Don't let him think you're not. This may sound like stalking him, but just watch him a little bit. And try to get on the lunch line behind him (or other line- this is always great for conversations). Now don't show up everywhere he is, and don't jump on line the second he does. Make it casual, don't go running to him haha. Try to match his friend number too-- it's awkard if you're in a huge group of girls and he's alone. If he is in a group talking, bring a group too, and shoot for a "hi". It's hard to get all his attention if he's in a conversation already. Make jokes, but of course don't change everything just to make him nottice. Dressing nice is one thing, but trying to act girly or perfect or something will seem fake, even if he falls for it at first. A person can tell jokes without seeming like a class clown, so crack some (pleasee make them relevant or he'll be creeped for sure haha). Main rule is always stay yourself, because that's who you want him to like. Obviously don't be mean to another person when you're mid-conversation or he'll think you'll be mean to him, even if you were kidding or have an inside joke with that paticular person about that behavior. Hope this helps and hope u get to know him better :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 May 2010): That's perfectly normal. I do get why you're confused though, because you feel you have nothing to base it on. But sometimes you just feel attracted to someone right off the bat. Once at school I was so busy talking to my friends I didn't watch where I was going and literally collided with this guy coming from the other side. We made such an impact I fell and all my stuff was over the floor. When I looked up at the guy to apologize I got my crush right then and there. It wasn't even because of his looks. He just had that cheeky smile on his face, and it was the way he handled everything. I don't know, his mannerisms, voice, everything just made me like him right off the bat. I had to go to my class so I didn't get a chance to get accainted with him, but I spent the entire day thinking about him. Then a week later we met at the school cafeteria and I offered to buy his drink to get even and we started talking. We ended up having a relationship after a while.So it's possible! Just try to invent excuses to be with him. - Be clumsy, run into him, make jokes about it and get talking. Guys like girls who aren't afraid to make fun of themselves. Be observant. - Maybe he's carrying a book you like. You can try engage him in conversation that way. - Maybe you've noticed Snickers' is his favorite candybar. Carry two, start nibbling at one while holding the other and once you've caught his attention casually offer the other to him because eating it on your own isn't as fun as sharing. Might sound corny but it has worked for me. The list goes on. Whatever you do, keep it casual and don't be pushy. If you keep it light he won't have the feeling you're chasing him, but he does get the message you're interested.
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