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writes:i have been with my boyfriend for only 5 months and the only time he wants to kiss or cuddle me is if when he wants sex. each time i say no he plays the guilt trip and says you would if you loved me, i just don't know whats best to do, end the relationship, or discuss my feeling with him and explain that i don't like it, a little help please ? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 April 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks for the replies they have helped allot :) i think im going to talk to him first :L
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reader, cupidus  +, writes (25 April 2011):
 You'll meet many men/boys like this along your path.
Don't find yourself alone with them too often.
Public places until ALL the cards are played.
Hold, show em, fold or run.. you'll never know unless
you've sat at the table first.
Remember that.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (25 April 2011):
 End the relationship. He is immature, respect-less, and using you. "You will if you love me", next time you hear anyone say that don't take it. He is the one who doesn't love you, because if he did... he wouldn't be emotionally blackmailing you just to have sex with you. Next time he tries that line with you how about you call him out on his BS? He treats you like a whore.
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reader, Andy00 +, writes (25 April 2011):
 Completely agree with dirtball. He is emotionally blackmailing you when he says that and that isn't fair on you at all. Talk to him and hopefully he'll adjust his behaviour!
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reader, dirtball  +, writes (25 April 2011):
 I think discussion should always be the first step. The "if you loved me" is emotional blackmail, and is pretty low down and dirty if you ask me. Explain how you feel and why. If he respects you and loves you, he'll adjust his behavior. If not, then you'll know where he stands and that it's time for you to leave.
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reader, Drew21 +, writes (25 April 2011):
 My wife has the same complaint about me. I would tell him how you feel. See what he says.Personally i've never been a very affectionate person, so it is out of the ordinary for me to be all kissy and cuddly.I have tried to change my ways a bit to make my wife happy, but it's hard to do, ya know?
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