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anonymous
writes:hello... when i have sex with my partner it lasts a good amount of time(anything between 10 mins to an hour.. which i think is OK) i think he gets pleasure from it and so do i but 9 times out of 10 after sex he always makes sarcastic remarks like well your boring why wouldn't you try different positions? why wouldn't you let me go down on you why wouldn't you go down on me?.. i just feel sorta angry that he may actually find me boring and want to move on. is it because i am scared to try different positions i have only recently became sexually active is there any tips that will make it more exciting for him and is easy for first timers ?
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 April 2011): why are you scared of different positions? you've had sex. what's the difference if you change it around a bit? i get bored when the girl just lays there. Doesn't mean they don't love you, they just like trying new things making more enjoyable for everyone.
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reader, Miamine +, writes (26 April 2011):
 This is not a good relationship. Guys who love you don't talk like this. Guys like this don't try to make you feel like shit.
I don't want to give you sex tips because no matter what you do this guy will still insult you. He doesn't treat you like a girlfriend, he treats you like a piece of meat. Men that love you, kiss and cuddle you and say nice things, because they love you and want to make you happy.
If you do everything he wants and bend over backward and forward for him, he'll accuse you of being a whore and tell you that you've been cheating on him.
This guy is bad news.. don't do sex tricks for him. I think you'll regret it. Stand up for yourself and tell him to talk to you with more respect.
But leaving him is better.
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reader, mima  +, writes (26 April 2011):
 I agree with the 1st answer.You might as well try the 'going down' on each other and changing styles.I'll be glad if you try saying 'what a boring sex' after sex with him and watch his reaction, then scold him to stop his disregard after sex to you as you just did to make him feel how bad it is.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 April 2011): "but 9 times out of 10 after sex he always makes sarcastic remarks like well your boring"
This is abusive non-loving behavior. He has some kind of problem that is causing him to behave this way, you don't do this to someone you love.
True story; a girl had sex with a guy, her first time, his first time, afterward he wouldn't talk to her and called her a slut and told her that there was "nothing special left".
Over 30 years later, she is my wife, and let me tell you there is a lot special left.
Find someone who thinks you are special, and who you think is special, and who treats you accordingly, and you treat him likewise. But, you don't do that by having sex with a lot of people, you do that by getting to know people slowly and over time developing a relationship.
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