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writes:Why does my husband do this??He goes out with the guys about once a month. Most of them are the guys he works with. He never invites me and I know that there are other women there because when he calls me I can hear the laughing in the background. Back to the question he stays out all night until 6am in the morning. I am okay with it but it started be an annoyance because he called me at 6a.m to pick his drunk butt up at 6a.m. I spoke to him at midnight and he said he had a ride home. At 6am in the morning my husband calls me to pick his butt up because he said his driver left to early and my husband wasnt ready to leave. Our son is only six and I had to get him outta bed to pick up his drunk dad. Is there a reasonable time he should have been home? Also he never invites me to party with him. I need some advice.. thanks yall!!
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (1 April 2010):
It's just once a month, so it's no real big deal. However, in the future, he can use public transport. That's what it's for. Don't wake your poor kid up anymore, he's exhausted. And don't be afraid to have a girls' night out as well.
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reader, Myrrh +, writes (1 April 2010):
 If he didnt want to leave when his co worker went home, thats his choice. That doesnt mean he has the right to wake his family and make them pick him up drunk at 6am! You say you dont have a problem with him going out like this, which is very good of you really. It would be cool if wives and girlfriends were invited. You could build friendships with his pals partners ect. But it doesnt sound as if its a social thing really. More of a lads night on the town! Which is why you arent invited.
Have a word with him before the next event. Tell him not to push his luck! That you dont mind him having "all nighters" from time to time but if he wont come home when his ride is leaving, he will have to get a cab or walk. If hes big enough to go out all night with the boys, he should be big enough to find his own way home.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 April 2010): Dear lady,
I feel it was not a big problem to post it to world. it was simple issue that generally come up daily in couple 's married life.
it is ok if he drinks once a month and ask u to pick up. I am glad it is not some one else he is making call to drop him home. or some other girl is droping him home.
ignore it.
do it some times, some times u send him cab
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reader, Red Green 0289 +, writes (1 April 2010):
The reason he does it, is because you KEEP AGREEING to pick him up. You've trained him how to treat you.
I agree, you're not the 6am taxi... He's an adult (even if he doesn't act like it)- next time, he's on his own.
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reader, Sincerely Yours +, writes (1 April 2010):
 I'd say he just wants that one night a month away from his wife and kid to hang with the guys. No harm.
Don't wake up the poor kid in the future. That's what public tranportation is for.
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reader, WiseAngela23 +, writes (1 April 2010):
Men are difficult. They feel as if the women makes them seem less desirable or superior and they feel that if they resort to alcohol as a companion instead. I am in my early 20's and I have realized that many women find it attractive when men get very drunk with no women around to boss them around. Its sad but it's true.
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reader, Myau  +, writes (1 April 2010):
 The horrible truth is that men cant really be themselves around women. We have to be something a bit more apropriate, thus we do need a night away to have fun and be a guy.
I think you will find the women you hear arnt with his group.
I can only praise you for allowing this, but since you are giving he should also be giving. You need to make it clear that you have needs too and that you want to go out and have fun too.
Is it possible for you to have a girls night out? He can stay home with your son those days.
Its discrasful he is letting his son see him drunk, this will loose him alot of respect. So he need to be more responsible and make sure that he has a ride home.
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reader, RainStorm  +, writes (1 April 2010):
Simply say, "No." Tell him to get a cab or get home earlier if the ride was ready then. Don't drop everything, wake up your poor kid to pick up his drunk daddy. He'll get the hint next time to either not stay out so late or do whatever he is doing.
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