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writes:I do not feel my boyfriend is proud of me. He is lovely to me when it is just us, or in front of MY friends. He DOES hold my hand and cuddle me in public. But it's around HIS friends that i feel this. I know facebook isn't that important, but he refuses to have me on it and there is absolutely no evidence of my existance on his fb. He only introduces me to his friends when it becomes strictly necessary and I am yet to meet some of his closest friends, 2 years on. He also makes out to his friends that is is me who wants to see him saying things like "I better go see the gf else she'll be cross", yet twenty minutes earlier he was telling me how excited he was to see me. I feel it makes out to his friends that I am some clingy gf and he is breezy and uncaring. Which is quite hurtful. Please advise me :(
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reader, largentsgirl89 +, writes (10 November 2010):
 Two years and he hasn't introduced you to his closest friends? That would really upset me. Why won't he put you on facebook? Has he said why he won't put you on there? Do you have a facebook? Is he on yours? Take him off. My boyfriend and I deleted our fbs and myspaces, way too much drama.
Confront him about how you feel. It sounds like he is showing off just for his friends and if he can't treat you respectfully in front of his friends after you confront him, then you need to ask yourself if you really want to be with him.
There are plenty of guys out there who will respect you like you deserve; be proud and don't sell yourself short!!!
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reader, RennieGeek +, writes (10 November 2010):
The fact that after two years he refuses to put you on FB and you haven't been introduced to all his friends is a big red flag to me. It makes me wonder if he isn't a player or has another girlfriend somewhere? I hate to put ideas in your head that may not be the case.
Also, have you told him how you feel when he says that stuff? How does he react? Does he blow it off? If he blows it off, then he doesn't care near enough to be with you.
Men jerk us around all the time, but there are nice guys out there who will not do that.
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reader, tracyamoc  +, writes (10 November 2010):
Hey hun, listen i was with a guy who made me feel bad about myself, belittled me and kept changing his personality all the time!! Most of the time he would be mad about me was when he was drunk and kept letting on to his friends that i would be chasing him even though i never did!! He drove me insane and i was turning psycho which i was never like that before. What did I do?? I kept telling myself i deserve RESPECT all the time and eventually i stopped believing him and did not take his crap anymore...i left him and this was only 2 weeks ago!! He keeps calling me when he is drunk and it is so hard to ignore him but you feel great about yourself the next day when you do, you feel PROUD, TRUST ME!!
This guy does not sound nice at all. He is pretending to be cool in front of his buddies and giving them an impression of something that you are not.
No guy deserves your tears... you have to stand up to him now or it will get worse. Everyone deserves happiness including you and keep telling yourself that you do not deserve this and that you deserve way better!!
I feel way better now that i got rid of that, cuz i know there is a guy out there who will be nice to me.
Hope this helps hun,
I wish you the best of luck, happiness and respect from any relationship. Keep me up to date xx
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