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writes:So I met this guy online, and we both really like each other, but we both live so far. I'm not sure how to make this work, so I'm just wondering if I should just move on or keep on talking to him and see what will happen?
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 October 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for all your responses, I didn't think i would get more than one. Well yea i'm thinking to meet him when i get the chance to, and I don't just talk to him online, we've been talking on the phone almost everyday for some time. He lives in Cali and I live in Seattle. He is in his early 30s and i'm in my mid 20s, and so far he seems like a good person.
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reader, Beery  +, writes (23 October 2008):
 Unless you are only going to be living apart for a short time - a matter of months - it's probably not going to work out no matter how deep your feelings are for each other. The fact is, the old adage 'absence makes the heart grow fonder' is nonsense. Absence - especially long absence - makes the heart grow colder. I would talk to him about the realities of the situation. The reality is that, outside of a commitment of some kind, you two are likely to drift slowly apart unless you start living close enough to each other to stay in daily contact. Sadly, that's life. You will both start friendships with other people and your special relationship will begin to seem less real and therefore not as special. Even if one of you stays committed the likelihood is that the other one will accept the reality of the situation and move on.
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reader, Arlo +, writes (23 October 2008):
 Hiya,
Ok, first of all, it is really difficult (read: virtually IMPOSSIBLE) to get the measure of a person you meet online. A computer screen is no substitute for being there face-to-face with someone. It's all too easy to hide behind a screen and keyboard and pretend to be whoever you want - after all, who knows any different (other than yourself)? I'm not saying that everyone is like that, but it's something to keep in mind.
So ......
If you are really keen to get to know this guy better, then at the very least you need to organise a meeting between yourselves (in a mutually convenient PUBLIC space, to be on the safe side). Once you have met face to face, I think you will pretty much know if there's anything more to it or not. You can then take it from there.
Remember: every long journey starts with a single step! If you want to know what's at the journey's end, you have to start out by putting one foot in front of the other.
Good luck!
Arlo.
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reader, Fairy_Lu +, writes (23 October 2008):
 Its up to you what you want to do, do you think it could work out between you 2? Long distance is very hard and your still young. People online are not always so great in person. Myabe keep talking and see how it goes but dont let your life revolve around him there are other great guys out there ones that are probably closer. Follow your heart not your head
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