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writes:I recently had my 'love of my life' once again after 2 1/2 years. But this one is strange, totally. For he's an HS teacher and I am his student. I'm only 17 and he's 24. I think he loves me more than I do, really. We do not talk whenever we're on school, or should I say it's I who just do not take the initiative that's why he never had guts to do so. But he's doing his moves to tell me in a vague way that he loves me. I am afraid for everyone to know about it so I'm kinda hesitant whether to be expressive inside school or not. We regularly chat on an online messenger and I guess we had our feelings exposed. I know I love him, I really do for I cannot stop thinking about him and I always pay my special attention whenever his name is being talked about. Would this be really love? The main culprit of what brought me here is that he told me he'll be going to court me after our graduation but I am not YET that ready to enter in a relationship. And another is, he's really expecting for that "what-every-boy-hankers" answer.What should I do? Please give me some pointers for I am somewhat befuddled.. Reply to this Question
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reader, Beery  +, writes (23 October 2008):
 What you're describing may be the start of love, or it may just be a crush. Despite what the books and movies suggest, love isn't usually something that's readily apparent. It's usually something that grows from mutual attraction. Anyway, the real issue here is that a teacher is having a relationship with a student, which is a big no-no - the reason being that it's all too easy for a student to fall for the authority figure that the teacher represents, and it's all too easy for a teacher to exploit such a relationship. My advice is to cool it at least until after graduation. Then, when you're both on an equal footing, you may both want to pursue things. These sorts of things are best left until an appropriate time, and while you're in school it's definitely not appropriate (or healthy).
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (23 October 2008):
If anyone got a whiff of what you two were planning then he would be suspended.
It's good that he wants to wait till you are 18 but you don't seem to be sure if you even want to date him.
He is a grown man and will want sex eventually from you. Are you prepared for that?
If you do not want to be in a realtionship with him then tell him now, stop leading him on as he clearly thinks you feel the same way.
Good Luck!! xx
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