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writes:I recently met a man online. On our first date, we met for tea and kept it short as he had another business meeting to attend that day. He then arranged for a very romantic dinner on our second date and we talked for 3 hours. We kissed and hugged. Since then we have been exchanging text almost everyday. He arranged for lunch next but I had a business lunch meeting so I could not meet up with him. We text about about work, our fantasies , plans to go traveling together, taking afternoon off from work. He text me while he was away on business trip for two weeks. He said I am fit, pretty and sexy and he likes me. It all seems ok, except, He is always playing golf on weekends, away for business trips and there has been no third date. It's been 3 weeks since my second date when we had our dinner. I am not sure what his actions are telling me.I am getting mixed signals here. Does he like me or not? What should I do? How do I know if he wants a relationship or not?
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reader, Angelina73 +, writes (18 September 2012):
Angelina73 is verified as being by the original poster of the question Thanks Bondgirl for sharing. 7 years is a very long time and I am glad it only took me two months to know he is not the one for me or what I expected, my McDreamy. :). I won't expect him to change and he should know his actions are telling me, he is not that into me and I might as well just wish him well and move on. Being little invested, and not getting physically involved, also helps to make the move easier.
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reader, BondGirl72  +, writes (18 September 2012):
 I know it is hard. I had to do the same thing with a boyfriend of 7 years. It was very difficult and I failed several times before actually sticking to the no contact. I kept hoping that he would change, but he never did. Hang in there...and remember that you can do it.
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reader, Angelina73 +, writes (17 September 2012):
Angelina73 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks bondgirl and cindy cares. I know I have been patient enough and he is obviously not that interested. I am just being kept on the side and I should make that known how I feel if he should contact me again. I don't want to waste my time on something not serious and committed. He being off the online site could mean there is someone else. I will move on and stop communicating on my part. Thanks for the good advice. I will follow through and continue looking elsewhere.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (17 September 2012):
 BondGirl is right. Two months you don't see him ? he's not that keen. He is not keen at all, I am afraid. He keeps you around as a low maintenance plan B ( or C or D ). You have to keep in mind that you've met him online, so you are probably not the only woman he has contacted this way. He may be actually single- but playing the field and keeping his options open, and apparently you are not even his favourite option. If you are looking for a serious relationship, I'd let him go for good. I believe that you can do much better.
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reader, BondGirl72 +, writes (17 September 2012):
You're not seeing him, you're barely communicating with him, and when he does have free time, he isn't proactive about making plans with you. It sounds like he is stringing you along. I would end it.
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reader, Angelina73 +, writes (17 September 2012):
Angelina73 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHe just returned from a business trip. I have been very patient and I have not seen him since July 17th. I do receive text messages from him when I send them to him. But that is it. I also notice that whenever he calls me, he is calling me while on his way home and from his car. He tells me this weekend he has to entertain his best friend who is in town. I m attending the Grand Prix so this weekend I won't be able to meet him either. He talks about taking time off work at times and spend the afternoon together with sexual implications too. But when I asked him when can we meet up again, there is no answer from my last text. Should I read more into this pattern? I am thinking I should stop all communication. I think he is not that keen or there's someone else in his life and he is meeting me secretly! He is probably involved with someone else although unhappy and is cheating? I know he is not married but I think he has a relationship with someone else; his ex is not probably not Ex.
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reader, BondGirl72 +, writes (2 September 2012):
Is he still texting/communicating with you? Honestly, it is hard to tell. I would let him know you would like to go out again and ask him when would he like to go. I know the old saying is that men are supposed to pursue the women, but it has NEVER worked that way for me. I have always been the one to make the first moves and then it has always been a give and take. If he has been doing all of the planning, he might want you to plan for once to show you're interested and proactive in getting to know him.
I also think you want to ask him what he is looking for in a relationship. If he just wants a companion to do things with occassionally, and you want a committed relationship, those are two very different things. Sometimes we don't discuss those things online with someone. Although, he is on a dating site, so that should account for something.
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reader, Angelina73 +, writes (2 September 2012):
Angelina73 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you Blonde30s.
I will definitely ask him what he wants when we do meet after his business trip two weeks later. Meanwhile I found out he has removed his online profile but I am still keeping mine online since I do not know if he is into a committed relationship with me or has he found someone else.
He just text me to say ok to having dinner with me when he returns.
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