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writes:I had a bad friendship break up 4 years ago, that still bothers me to this day. 4 Years ago, i was best friends with this girl named Kayla for about a year and 1/2. She was the first person I opened up too, Gave her my heart, and let her know everything about me. Like she was my world. During our friendship, she would disappoint me when she would ditch me to hang with other girls, she begged and cried, i forgave her. So i always would have to ignore her sometimes because she would do things that would make me feel bad. It would kill her inside to know that i would be mad at her. So i guess that me being mad at her most of the time added up, and she invited me to her house so we can talk, I went down, and she told me that she didn't want to be friends with me anymore, Straight up. I didn't understand! I was there for her, Jump when she said to jump, like I was really a good best friend. But back then, I did have issues. I really did. I have changed tremendously for the better That broke my heart into a million of pieces. I cried, begged her "Please, Please give me a second chance" She didn't give in. I sat on her porch for an hour begging and crying, snot coming out of my nose, it was that serious. Because she meant alot to me. I made myself look stupid. That was the lowest point in my life. And very embarrassing. I regret begging for someone to be my friend. So, now its our sophomore year in high school, but our freshman year,we didn't have any classes, and I hardly saw her at school. I had noticed that someone we both know from Elementary school doesn't talk to me, and there some other girls that don't talk to me that hang with her, but I have a feeling that she said something to them. I know the year after we stopped being friends, I admit, that I did tell my friends about her. but just for them to know. I honestly have no desire to become friends with her again. I just found out that we have 2 classes together this year, and im nervous because I don't know how I'm going to react emotionally to seeing her everyday. I haven't been able to let go of the situation. Everyday, something reminds me of it. When I see her, i just get anger all over me, like " how are you just fine?" I try to act like it doesn't bother me, but that's a lie. I just really want to move on. I want to be strong. She acts like life is wonderful, and I doubt she thinks about me. She has her friends, she seems happy. I just don't understand how she doesn't care that i was begging and crying. Like, she had no feelings, or no heart for me. I have searched how to get over situations on the internet, nothing has worked. please help me. its been four years. I'm hopeless. I've prayed, and I think god put me in these classes with her for me to become stronger Or who knows his reason. But I just want to be able to say, I'm okay. I'm Happy. Or when I see her, think nothing about it. When I see her, it all replays over in my head, and that is capable of ruining my day. So having classes with her this year, I don't even know. Please help me, and help me feel better, and to see things in another light. Give me steps, Something. Im tired, exhausted, and done with letting this effect me like this.I'm trying to enjoy high school. I would hate to remember it like this Thanks.
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reader, Fluffypuppies  +, writes (2 September 2012):
She knows you would do anything for you...and she seen you as weak...peoplr who are narcassitic...like people who are needy.
They toy with them and discard them...be glad she ditched you...she did you a favor actually.
Look inside yourself and try to find the reasons why someone like her would be so important to you...trust me there are reasona why you cling to users.
She seen you coming a mile away...go slow with people...
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reader, kellyO  +, writes (2 September 2012):
 Hi SassyElegancexoxo,
Some friendship last some don't but that is life for you. This is beginning of learning to be strong and to handle disappointment. Forget about her and make other friends. Think of it as she was never a real friend. A real friend would not ditch you when you need them or constantly do things to make you feel bad.why beg to be with someone like that? If you have expectation for a friendship and she was not leaving up to it then she isn't worth the trouble.
what you should take from this is that you should never beg someone to be your friend and if a friendship doesn't work out so what. Now concentrate on being the best person you can ever be and a good friends to other who want to be with you.
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reader, HardToExplain +, writes (2 September 2012):
 Hey, I think you got to remember that you've just started high school and there's plenty of new friends and memories to be made!(I'm from the UK so I have no idea about sophomores thingies/grades/etc etc) You should be meeting new people right? That's incredibly lucky, seriously! In the UK we're stuck with the same people for 5 years from year 7 to year 11! I'd love the chance to be able to meet new people!
I'm in a similar situation where in year 9(grade 8, I think?) I was sitting on tables in classes with girls that I used to be best friends with when I was younger and we just kind of drifted apart, at first I found it incredibly awkward, but you learn to just go with the flow, and I even ended up talking to the girls sometimes, we often laughed a lot too!
I know you will feel scared and awkward at first but remember, it's been 4 years! Time heals people, it's such a shame that it hasn't done it's best work with you though, I'm really sorry about that. Just let her get on with her life and try to make yours great again! People change as they get older, and they mature too. I think it is best to just go with the flow and not let her happiness make you feel sad, no offense but she sounds like a mean person if she just wanted to suddenly end your friendship like that and ignored all of your pleas when you asked to still remain friends. She honestly doesn't deserve your friendship at all for being such a cold and ignorant person, she also doesn't deserve to know that you have been experiencing such horrible heartache these last 4 years! Remember that time heals people and that God will be with you always to keep you strong throughout these tough high school years, hope everything works out for you, good luck! x
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