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female
age
30-35,
*annielab
writes:Two days ago my boyfriend told me he had to go do some work-related stuff. He told me it would take him a couple of hours and he would come see me right after he was done.Five hours or so later (it was really late by then, around 12am or something), he called me asking me if he could still come over.Of course I was very angry by then as I had said no to going over to a friend's house because I had plans with him, I had gotten ready, etc.My answer to his question was 'no', and he started apologizing for being late. At least he could've called earlier, right? He told me it wasn't his fault that this 'work-related' thing had lasted so long.At night he went on (via texting) about how he had wanted to be with me the whole time but he had not been able to get out of there, etc.Little did he know though, that I had just seen one of his friends on facebook upload a picture of my boyfriend and his friends drinking (this was uploaded around 8pm).I confronted him and he admitted to lying.He ditched me to be with his friends, he didn't even have the courtesy to call and to top it off, he lied to me.I always thought he was a great guy because he was trustworthy. I caught him lying this time, but has it been the only time he has lied to me? Now I'm having a lot of doubts and remembering times when he could have possibly lied to me and it's absolute hell. Like, for instance, a couple months ago he went on vacation to the beach with his friends and while he was there he texted from another cellphone telling me he had lost his phone. We didn't talk during his entire trip until a few hours before they're were coming back to town when he phoned me and told him he had found it.All my friends told me this sounded very suspicious but I trusted him so much I believed him.Now I'm not so sure he was being honest (and this isn't the only situation I am now having doubts about)What should I do?
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reader, Danielepew +, writes (21 November 2011):
 What the girls said.
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (21 November 2011):
 will you ever trust him again?
if not... might be time to end it.
i've stayed with men I did not trust... it did not end well...
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reader, mammaboo  +, writes (21 November 2011):
 Anyone that lies to you will cause you to doubt them and so you should. Try asking him why he felt the need to lie
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 November 2011): He's a cheater. Dump him. Trust your gut instincts.
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reader, fi_the_tree +, writes (21 November 2011):
 He lied, the trust has been broken. The minute the trust is gone, the relationship is broken. You will be forever second guessing yourself. My advice, find someone who is trust worthy...
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