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writes:Yesterday my girlfreind slept over at my house and when my parents went to bed we watched a DVD and when it finished we snuggeled on the sofa and all night she hinted and told me she wanted to take the relationship further without having sex.This was ok however we are both still virgins and have never explored each others genitals. We both didnt get far and it was uncomfortable as we didnt know what we was doing. we was interupted when i heard my mum come downstairs to the toilet however we was not caught i was relieved it was abruptly stopped.we have a strong relationship so we are able to talk about things and i told her i felt like i had ruined the magic but she insists i hadn't. we agreed we would have another go at it when theres no parents but i need advice on where to go and what to do. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 August 2009): I would just like to say my boyfriend and i were in the same place at one point! We were 17 when we started dating and we were each others firsts. We started off just like you and your girlfriend with touching each other. I think that is a great next step if you are BOTH ready. Just be careful because things can sometimes go fast after that. If you look each other that is great! I say explore each other it is fun! Just be safe and yes the parents can be a pain sometimes!! Just have fun and enjoy each other. From what I read you seem like a nice guy and if you stay kind and gentle your girlfriend will be a lot more open to things. If you too keep talking about things as open as it sounds like you do thats great! That is how my boyfriend and i are and it got us through so much! Just when your ready for sex be sure to use a condom and make sure she gets some form of birth control. It would be a really good idea for both of you to go see the gyne together. That is what my boyfriend and i did and it worked out great we both got the info we needed and it is great to both be on the same page.OH and you can try oral or dry humping and it would be a really good idea before you have sex to be comfortable around each other naked. Just make sure to use a condom if you are naked because she can get pregnant with you going inside her. I know its long but I just felt like i was right were you are so i though i would try and help : ) Good Luck and have FUN!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 July 2007): I don't think watching porn will help you at all!
You can be incredibly close and intimate with your girlfriend just by taking things slowly but the most important thing EVER is COMMUNICATION. Don't be afraid to try things out with each other but make sure you ask how it feels and judge things that way. Girls especially are very, very different in what they like and dislike and if you try and copy what you see off a porn film the likelihood is that it will be 100% sexual and 0% sensual and your women is looking for sensual rather than sexual, I'm sure.
If you can both communicate with each other whilst you're intimate you will be great lovers for each other. Communication is what it takes, remember that :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 July 2007): i would suggest reading books or watching documentries at this point over porn. sex ed but no porn.
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reader, MyThoughts +, writes (2 July 2007):
watch some porn to help you no what your doing. it will teach you a lot you need to now about how to have sex and where to put it etc. plus shows what possions you can do
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (2 July 2007):
 I think you should go for her. But, don't forget to use contraception. None of you wants a baby at this moment.
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