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30-35,
*mandanash
writes:My boyfriend just recently broke up with me. He essentially turned his feelings off like a light switch. His father is an alcoholic, so he has learned to become very disassociated from situations that would normally be hurtful. He started letting go of me months ago, without telling me he was. And suddenly told me he never loved me and has zero feelings for me anymore. I approached him a few days later asking how he turned his feelings off for me. He said he's had practice. And I told him it wasn't fair he used months to get over me. He said sorry for that. He has turned off all dating/emotional/romantic feelings for me, but he says he still really cares for me and wants to be friends. I believe this, but I don't know how to deal with it. I am so hurt and so torn up, yet he wants to be friends and he cares about me and has once tried to console me. I don't know how to deal with hurting when he's just fine, and when he just turns his feelings off.
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reader, Red591  +, writes (23 September 2011):
 In order for you to heal you cannot be "friends". the person who is not hurting can be friends. its unrealistic and stupid to try and remain friends because on some level you will always have the hope that he will turn his feelings back on. Get away from him. and if he chases you down and says his feelings are back the get away from him again. You don't turn love off and use the person as company while you get over them. its mean. you deserve better. he does not and no matter who he is with, he will do this again I am sure of it so if you hear it through the grapevine that he is in another relationship, pity the poor girl and be glad its not gonna be you this time
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reader, lerato29  +, writes (22 September 2011):
 i am sorry for your pain but he is selfish you dont need someone like this in your life and is best if you dont become friends with him it will end up complicating things,i know it hurts but u need to let go of him give yoself time and u will get over him.
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