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writes:I have been knowing this guy for 3 weeks we were texting before we actually went on a date and before that he told me that he doesn't want a gf. So we went on a date and everything went well obviously I'm different from other girls for him plus he told me that he's on a date with others 3 girls and they have nothing to say about lIfe or whatever. Well next day he asked me out for a night out with him and his friend who were visiting also the next day for lunch too. Then he went out on vacation out of town with his friend. He still texted me everyday. We had plan to make some project together also. Anyways there was some flirting like i was going on vacation and he asked me when I'm coming back and he said I don't know if I can last that long. After he for back from his vacation with his friend and before I had a vacation we hangout again with my friend and his friend. And there's one time he said. We are getting closer. And I actually thought so as in we hangout like everyday and we were very open we talk about relationship and stuff too. After I got back from vacation we met the day after and that's when he asked me If I think we are friends or we are dating. I said I don't think we are friends and I don't think we are dating too. He asked. E what if we are just friends? So I said like why do you want to be just friends? He told me that he's doing a lot of. Ad things and not in position to have a gf right now. Plus we are doing project together I don't want you To hate me after knowing about things I done. So I asked him what you do exactly. He said he sleeping with lots of girl right now like last night before meeting me he stay over at girls place and went to another ones at noon without showering he feel disgusting. He said he cared about my feeling that's why he's telling me this before hurting me. And I asked him if any other girls know this too and he said no. Now we see each others almost everyday and one of the girls start to get jealous (which he always ask me advice that he wants to stop things with her cos she's crazy) I don't know if I want this guy or not but I enjoy his company also it's bother me still when I see him texting when he's with me. What do you think I can do or should do?
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reader, Seraphim  +, writes (14 September 2012):
 I think The fact that he told you in the beginning that he doesnt want a relationship should have put you off straight away ( well that would have put me off). Its not cool when you like someone but they are not on the same page as you. I think that maybe you should either be friends or forget about him and get away whilst you can because he sounds like a complicated man who sleeps around and i think its best that you keep yourself out of that mess and find yourself a nice decent man that meets your standards.
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (14 September 2012):
 He wants to add you to his harem for sex.
I find it so amazing that there are girls out there who think they can "fix" a man-whore by being a good person and a good girl. It takes HIM being WILLING to change, you can do it for him.
Why would you want to share this guy with ALL these other girls? Eww. You know he isn't going to stop seeing them over you, right?
Find a guy who wants to date JUST you and no one else.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 September 2012): You know, I actually think this guy may care enough about you to have told you he's not ready for a relationship and that he's sleeping with lots of other women at once and doesn't want to hurt your feelings by holding anything back. I'd be thankful if I was you that you're not just another woman to be put at risk of catching an STD from him!
Just remain friends for the sake of the project if you HAVE to and nothing more. He's interested in casual sex, not relationships. Don't put yourself on the 'At risk' list by getting into anything sexual with him or getting emotionally attached to him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 September 2012): This is a very easy question to answer....He told you that he has lots of girlfriends and don't want to hurt you so what part of that that you don't understand? He has told you he does not want a girlfriend so do not answer his text or phone calls or you can end up with a disease that will ruin you life for the rest of your life!!!!!!!!!
Leave this guy along, he's dangerous to your health!!!!!!
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (14 September 2012):
 Find another guy who has not got a whole harem at his disposal, and is content with just dating you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 September 2012): It sounds like he is a player. If you start dating him you will always wonder if he is still sleeping around.It will drive you insane! Stay friends with him and nothing more.You can still spend time together but tell him you just want to be friends. Plus, if you have sex with him you could get an STD.Remember, you wouldn't just be having sex with him but everyone else he's been with.
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reader, Sandman +, writes (14 September 2012):
 Listen, he's enjoying having as many women as he can. Listen to Daniel, he's not serious with ANY of your girls. The most, and I mean this with respect, any of are doing are giving him orgasms, that's it.
If you're looking for a relationship, find a man who wants a relationship with JUST you and not you WITH many other women.
Sandman
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (14 September 2012):
 He's not serious with any of you. I wouldn't like such a situation, but I wonder if you do.
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