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writes:hey people My bf is away at the moment and although i find that hard to cope with whats killing me at the min is that i havent heard from him today I know what your thinking One day big deal but i always usually hear from him and its tearing me up Im having panick attacks feel like i cant breath I wanna burst into tears right now I cant focus at work Nothing is taking my mind of the fact that he has not textall i keep thinking is why has he not text Have i done something is he hurt has he lost his phone ( he doesnt have my number anywhere else) It is just so unusual of him not to text me and i have text him a few times i just cant help thinking the worse I know there is prob no advice that can be given for this as the only thing that will help is a text from him but anyone with any experience or ideas please let me know Thanks
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reader, xxzoezxx +, writes (29 December 2007):
your in the same situation as i am so trust me on this.he means the world to you ,but dont think the worst,if you leave him to text you first he will text you when hes ready.If you text him everyday he might end up feeling trapped and think your obsessive.if you phone him he might not asnwer which will make you feel even worse.
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reader, big.d +, writes (21 November 2006):
the day hasn't ended yet......just cool
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 November 2006): I know, I know, when he hasn't sent you a text today or called you, your imagination goes wild and you worry. I used to be a worrier, myself.
If you have already sent him one or more texts today, DON'T send any more! Nothing is wrong; he's probably just busy - especially if everything up until now has been going well between you - wait and let him get in touch with you.....even if it takes him another couple of days. I expect you'll hear from him. But please, resist the temptation to send any "why haven't you contacted me?" kinds of messages......he will feel smothered and that you're worrying far too much. Don't let HIM see how anxious you are! And when you do see him, just let him know its good to see him, you missed him, and that's about it.
I agree that you need to focus on other things (your JOB!!) activities with friends, or things you like doing on your own. Don't make him the center of your world, even though he's special!
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 November 2006): I hate to say it but if your worried about not having a text from him,it shows your lack of trust in him and what a weak person you are depending on him so much.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 November 2006): Stop worrying! I bet he is busy and hasn't had time to text. I think to be honest, texting is the worst thing that has ever been invented. In the past we spoke to each other in real words, only when we had time or on a night or weekend. Now, it's mayhem, i hate it. My fella is crap at texting me back. Some days i get 10 then another day none. Stop worrying, just save all your words and hugs and kisses for the next time you see him. Try and occupy your mind and body. Get involved in some gossip in the office, anything, but do settle down, we have all been there, and it's very destructive.
Take care
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ps reply to this is you're bored!!!!!
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reader, LISAG +, writes (21 November 2006):
 Sounds like this guy is your entire life - bit of a worry if anyone revolves their entire life around one other person. That in itself is a strain for the other person. Sounds a bit over dramatic that you're feeling like having a panic attack too!!!??? Get a grip of yourself, there is probably a perfectly viable explanation for it. I suspect he will text you later, quit worrying yourself sick, 8 out of 10 worries never actually materialise by the way !
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reader, vina_101 +, writes (21 November 2006):
 It's not a big deal that he hasn't texted you YET! Relax, chill out and calm down girl. Why does a mesely text message cause you to have a panic attack...geez.
He will call you later ok? He's probably just busy or something. Don't panic! It'll be fine.
It may be unusual to you but I'm pretty sure there's a good reason behind it. Oh and by the way don't sit and wait by the phone and don't call him either. Let him call you first because you've already sent him a text and you're not desperate. Find something to occupy your time. Go watch Tv or something.
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reader, David Lewis +, writes (21 November 2006):
 Maybe you just havent received it yet. Maybe he hasn't got yours yet.
I have had this argument before, then received 5 texts the next day from the day before. This had made me feel really guilty.
Just text him again or even call him to put your mind at rest.
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reader, I Dont Lie +, writes (21 November 2006):
 I recognise that problem youre having, its called having too much time on your hands syndrome!! Why dont you just call him to see why he hasnt texted you back? Or cant you because he usually does the texting first?
Youre worried about him cheating on you? Or are you worried about him getting into trouble? Which one is it? Cause it does make a whole lot of difference! If its the latter, then well, you just need to relax and have faith in him that he will not walk into a manhole. If its cheating that youre worried about, then I think you need to get a grip of yourself, for real, cause you are smouldering him. If someone is cheating on you, believe you me, chances are they would be texting you night and day because of the self guilt trip. Hes probably just busy or forgotten, maybe a meeting, maybe a car accident, maybe he met old friends, maybe he he got tired of texting you first, etc...whatever it is, chances are, he wont be cheating on you!
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