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writes:My Girlfriend 11 month's ago told me her ex boyfriend txted her saying " y don't u come to my house " she txted back " y would i? " he txt her saying " so i can f**k you " (she let me read the txt's) now i got mad at this and he was lucky i didn't know him at all. he said to tell me it was just a joke she stoped txting him and never give her new number to anyone he knew.last month when i was out clubing with my girl we saw her ex working behind the bar. she said hi to him and that was lefted at that.but all night she wanted to stay downstair's in the club and he work's behind the bar " downstair's " the musis is well better. but when we went upstair's she always said " i'm going looking for someone downstair's " to me it felt like she wanted to go down stair's and see him maybe i am wrong and being silly. this weekend she went down town again with friend's. my girl told me she spoke to him asking him how he was going and stuff. she told me she doesn't wanna be rude. that's fine but how do i know he will not txt her saying all these rude stuff again? am i right to be like this? she said he can start txing her again.he's single now just broke up with is old girlfriend 2 months ago so he's gonna try is luck am i right?i only asked her sunday " what u talk about " and she wanted to talk about how close they used to be when they was Friends (before they become lover's). but i told her " i don't wanna talk about him " they broke up because he cheated on her. that was 3 year's ago but they slept together 4 month's before i got with her. (14 month's ago) for a year it was just friend's haveing sex. am i being stupid? i trust my girl i do but she told he as the charm to sweep any girl of is feet any being the word. she told me he can't do it 2 her because she knew she real him but now she doesn't remember why she got with him in the first place.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 November 2006): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks Alot i'm just gonna let it all pan out and watch my girl's move's if she get's werld around me like hideing while txting someone than i know something's up. i can't ask her not to txt him because she's always get mad and we have a fight and somehow it's always my fault never her's.
thanks for the help kicking is ass seem's a good idea lol but that's last i think.
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reader, maxsteel86 +, writes (21 November 2006):
 Have a chat with the guy. Tell him not to be texting your girlfriend anymore unless he's willing to accept the 'trouble' that'll come with it (kick his ass!)
If your not the violent type or something, then tell your girlfriend that you're unhappy with her being in contact with him. Dont worry, you're within your limits here since obviously nothing good can come out of her being in touch with him still. I'm sure she cares for you enough to do this, I mean its no big deal really.
Personally I'd go for the first idea:-P!!! But that's just me
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reader, Yos  +, writes (21 November 2006):
 I wasn't just a joke.
I think you are within your rights to ask your girlfriend to have no contact with him. This includes not replying to any texts he sends her. If she bumps in to him by accident when out then there's nothing anyone can do about that, but she should avoid him otherwise. Since its obvious he'd have sex with her if he could (and she let him) you can ask her to stay away.
At the same time, don't let your feelings towards him effect your relationship with your girlfriend. You trust her, so don't come down hard on her or she'll think you don't. Make sure you explain that its him you don't trust, and thats why you don't want him around her. Not because she'd do anything, but because you don't want her being put in that situation.
Treat her well and trust her and everything should be ok.
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reader, LISAG +, writes (21 November 2006):
 I would just carry on trusting her. Get confident, she's with you now. Forget him. She will start to resent you if you do not trust her. Don't talk about him, don't let him bother you. Also beware that accusing people of behaviour often invites the very behaviour you don't want them to do ! Human nature is a weird and unpredictable creature. We all have to trust people until they do something to warrant distrust. You could destroy your relationship if you don't chill out about this one.
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