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writes:my boyfriend has a foot fetish and i hate feet or people touching my feet, it makes me feel sick and he keeps trying to tickle my feet and i have tried to tell him that i dont like it but i dont just want to say it really direct but it aint getting the hint, he told me before we started going out that he had a foot fetish and im fine with it just as long as it aint my feet, i love him and i dont wanna brake up but i just dunno what to say to make him stop, any suggestions thank you xxx Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 June 2010): I have a foot fetish too, I'm a guy... had a really hard time telling my gf because she was just like you, she hated even touching her feet... but then she actually accepted the fact that I have a foot fetish and enjoys the thingies I do to her because she really loves me :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 June 2010): Man up and say it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 June 2010): My boyfriend has a foot fetish. Yes sometimes I give him weird looks when he isn't looking at me! but it could be a much worse fetish. If you can't see it from that angle and really hate it then maybe its best to finish? your choice.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 June 2010): Your just not sexually compatiable in that way I guess! Maybe try find a common ground hope it works out xx
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reader, Myrrh +, writes (11 June 2010):
 As others have said, you should really have been up front at the start and told him. You say you dont mind as long as its not your feet but would you really be ok with him lavishing attention on other girls feet? Having said that, hes rather silly to be trying to tickle your feet. Not many people could stand that for long. It would become very irritating after a while. Does it have to be tickling? Are you sure its not just this thats making you feel sick? How about a massage? If youve never tried, suggest it to him. Tell him your feet are uber sensitive and constant tickling is irritating but a gentle massage might be ok. And if you still cant bare him touching them you will have to be honest and say so.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (11 June 2010):
You'll just have to tell him straight that you don't like it. There is no other way.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (11 June 2010):
 You are doing him a huge misfavour. He told you he had a foot fetish from the beginning, and you didn't tell him you don't like anyone touching your feet. Him having a foot fetish means he wants to touch YOUR feet. Not just random strangers. It is an intimate and probably also erotic thing for him to do, you should NOT be fine with him doing it to others. And I dodn't even think he actually wants to do it to others, because he's with you!
So bottom line is: no you're not "fine" with his fetish. Who's feet would it be if it isn't yours if you don't mind me asking?
Tell him the truth: you are not okay with his foot fetish, you'd prefer it if he didn't come close to your feet.
If there is no middle ground, for example you'd let him give you foot massages, you have to end it. It is not fair on him to expect him to just stop. At least, you have to tell him your true feelings, and not with this "hinting". Just say it as it is, so there is no misunderstanding. Of course he "aint getting the hint", you told him at the beginning you were fine with it!
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