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writes:When I first started dating my now boyfriend he texted me all the time. I really believed we had a connection. However after dating him for a little less than a month he slept with one of his friends and got her pregnant. He told me right away that she was pregnant and that he never wanted to lose me but understood if I didn't want to be with him anymore. He will be involved with the baby but isnt sure to what extent. I told him we could try working through the situation. He even offered that we get counseling if it would help us stay together. I know he loves me and wants to make this work out. I'm just really hurt and confused as to why he did it in the first place. I don't know if I should trust him. Should I stay with him and try to work things out?
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reader, lostsammie  +, writes (12 February 2010):
Im in a similiar situation, my ex bf & i dated for 2 years, i then told him we needed a break cause he needed to get himself together and prove he could provide for us and a family if we indeed got married one day..during this break he decided to sleep with someone else, i find out 4 months later and at that time she was over 2 months pregnant.. he still begs me not to make him live his life without me, and its making it really hard for me to just walk away, but he did so much wrong in our relationship before that, that i cannot stay...Im torn between my 2 options, stay and try to make it work only to be constantly hurt for the rest of my life every time i see the innocent child..and also have the childs mother in our life FOREVER, or do i walk away and be miserable for a while only to find someone who will appreciate me the way i should have been. He didnt care about our future, my feelings or anything else but himself when he slept with her..so why should I save my first child for him, why should I give him the satisfaction of being my husband because he knows exactly what a great person I am and would never cheat and have high morals for myself & life. Its not going to be easy walking away from someone you love, I dont even know that I can but I have to let myself try because Im only 23 and I dont need his baggage in my life..its even harder when its your first real love... good luck best wishes, get out now considering you've only dated for such little time, dont end up like me years down the track...its so much harder
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reader, Claire-kelly  +, writes (21 January 2010):
Hi I would say get rid of him. If he had anythin to do with that child it would always be in your face get rid and move on there is a lot more out there and nobody deserves to beated on.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (21 January 2010):
He's cheated on you one month into it and is already suggesting counselling? Run a mile.
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reader, Stayc63088 +, writes (21 January 2010):
 Not worth it. Aside from already having trust issues and talking about counseling already within a month of dating, he is about to have a kid. Do you really want to deal with that? I mean that kid will always be there, and so will the best friend he had sex with while dating you.... They will always be there. But the fact that you have trust issues is enough for me to tell you to end it. Definitely not a way to start a relationship. Move on.
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reader, Honest Answer +, writes (21 January 2010):
 Any connection you thought you had vanished when he slep with someone other than you. Run, don't walk away from this relationship.
Jeff
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female
reader, anonymous, writes (21 January 2010): I'm inclined to say cut your losses and walk away. This is such a difficult situation for you to have to deal with and will only get worse. He cheated on you. Leave him to deal with his own mess.
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