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writes: my husband is lightly controlling and its all come to a head when he lost his rag with me because I did some overtime at work today, we got into an arguement and he threw his wedding ring out the window, he is always really childish when it comes to me and I dont know what to do to change him, we are currently in couple counselling but he is mr nice guy when we are there?I dont want to leave him cause in everyother way he is fab
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 January 2010): You do not appreciate the gravity of what he did with you.
He raged and cursed because you did something that you wanted to do that he finds riles at his authority.
HE IS NOT LIGHTLY CONTROLLING. HE IS CONTROLLING.
Look it up on this site for the characteristics, dangers and possible future scenarios of living with such a flawed character type.
He is very insecure and in his mind he was possibly thinking you were having sex with someone else. That is why he was so angry.
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (21 January 2010):
 This is shocking. The fact that you could argue about something so small. Overtime work is so common nowadays. I would take this as a big warning sign. His explosive nature could not be compensated with his other good qualities.
To leave him now would seem too early but I could tell, you would slowly lose interest in someone who can't handle anything.
Maybe when he was a child he was neglected and you being independent just triggered that. You are not going to tell your boss, hey I gotta go home otherwise my husband would be mad.
Tell him what he did really hurt you. He has his own problems and he needs to reconcile with his painful childhood or whatever it is that bothers him.
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