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writes:I am 27 yrs. old and in love with widowed 40 yrs. (lost his wife on 25th April 07) having a son 11 yrs. old and daughter 6 yrs. old. He also loves me a lot. We know each other from a year. I feel very secure and complete with him and he also cannot live without me. He wants to marry me. I am having few worries in my mind. First is our Age Gap i.e of 13 yrs. and other thing that I would be step mother for my life. Kindly advise me if we marry then this marriage will be successful?? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 August 2007): If you really do love each other as much as you describe in this letter, then I'm quite sure you'll have no problems. However, you must remember that he has just lost a wife so he will be feeling very upset and maybe even a bit guilty to her that he is remarrying so be tactful and I'm sure everything will be fine.Ever heard the saying 'love is blind'? If you have then you'll know that the age gap is nothing is you love each other and I'm sure it's not going to be too much of a problem.By the way, about the whole step-mom palaver. His children have just lost their mum and having their dad remarry only a short while afterwards may make them feel their mom has been replaced. So be gentle to them and make sure they understand that you don't want to hurt them and that you understand that you aren't their mom.My parents divorced when I was very young and I went to live with my father. He got a girlfriend and she took over all his attention. My sister and I became so upset and jealous that the relationship had to finish between them. This is why I'm telling you to be tactful about the children and make sure he spends lots of time with them. I'm sure he will appreciate you for understanding that as well.Best of luck.
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