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*eartbrokenleiram
writes:my b.f and i were engaged to be married next year but suddenly my ex b.f got in touch with me and i also communicated with him. i even met him couple of times i felt somehow that the feelings i had for him before comes back, but he took advantage of me. He convince me to give him money and i dont know why i was also giving him what he wants. then in the end i realize that it was not love that i felt for him.But the sad part is that my present b.f found out about what happened. He was very upset and he left me, he was shock about what i did and in the end he broke up with coz he said that the feelings will not be the same anymore. But i really love him, and i cant let go of him. he made his final decision that i should move onwith my life without him. but deep inside me i cant do it. please help me.....
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (19 July 2007):
 Nobody can take advantage of you unless you let them. You made a terrible mistake and now you are paying for it. Move forward with your life, this lesson can and will make you a better person. Good luck.
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reader, Andy00  +, writes (19 July 2007):
 From the sound of it he's told you where you stand after what you've done.
If you really don't want to move on just yet, you could always just contact him now and again, asking how things are. He may reconsider, after all, he WAS going to marry you not long ago. But I'm afraid from how things look; You messed him around, and he won't be able to forgive you.
Still, in the long run, you will be fine. If he won't take you back, in time this will be easier to accept, and eventually meet somebody else. Hopefully from there, you will learn from your mistake, and won't allow it to happen again.
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reader, DJ8433 +, writes (19 July 2007):
 You screwed up, I suggest forgetting about him and moving on with your life. Try to learn from this experience and not be so selfish the next time you're in a relationship. Next time, don't go into an "exclusive" relationship thinking it's o.k. to muck around with others. If you do go "exclusive" make sure he's a man that meets your needs so you're less tempted to go outside of the relationship. If you're in an "exclusive" relationship and want to muck around, get out of it before you do muck around. You may have an opportunity to get back with someone you've been honest with than lying to them and expecting them to forgive you. You'll like yourself alot more too.
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