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anonymous
writes:I have been with my partner for 3 years he is wonderful and means the world to me. i am the problem though, i am always so jealous when he looks at other women. I'm sure i have no reason to worry but it gets me in such a state sometimes i feel i'm going mad. We are to be married soon also!! so why do i feel all the time that i am going to lose him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 September 2007): Well are you sure that you are marrying for the "right" reasons? This is something I have always thought about because I have seen too many people get married for the sake of marriage when the passion is not all there in the relationship to begin with!Marriage is a huge step. And ideally you should do it with someone who you are crazy about and who feels the same way. This is usually the "honeymoon" period. And when you feel this way about somebody and they feel the same way, jealousy is usually kept at bay. You are both so sure of each other. There is no room for jealousy cause you are so positive he is the one and so is he. And so when done the "right" way, marriage should feel so natural and beautiful and give you confidence and make you excited. It should bring you both to tears, Of Joy!You are getting married. You should be feeling this way! If you are not, it seems like there might be a problem. Why are you marrying him then? (and if you answer my question with "oh I do feel that way but..." Then you don't feel this way cause if you did, there would be no "but's" about it.) When you marry for the "right" reasons, there is never a doubt in your mind. Something to think about.
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (10 September 2007):
 You feel insecure because you have low self-esteem. You need to realize your self-worth. If he loves you enough to ask you to marry him then HE thinks you are something very valuable, you should too. There are all kinds of sites on the internet that can help you to raise that self-esteem. As far as him looking at other women, once you feel better about yourself and this still is bothering you (it may not be an issue then) then you can have a nice chat with him about it. Good luck and best wishes, your future looks very bright to me!
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 September 2007): Because it's very disrespectful for him to openly be looking at other women in front of you. That behavior is making you insecure. Tell him to stop it at once.
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