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writes:My boyfriend and I are on a break.I've been sad, but he doesn't feel any emotions at all.He's broken up with me at least four times, and each time he wasn't coming back. Each time he told me he doesn't love me anymore, but in the end, he comes back to me. I feel so sad when he's away, but he doesn't feel any pain. I see him in class, and he acts just like normal. Always smiling. Do you think he really loves me, and is he just hiding his emotions to be "manly"? And today, I called him even though we were on a break. I told him I love him, but he told me that if he said it to me, he would be lying. I don't know if I can keep taking this pain...
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reader, Tigerlily +, writes (20 November 2009):
No honey you can't keep taking this pain. This man is not hiding his emotions, he doesn't have any. He said as much when he said he couldn't say he loves you. He said as much when he broke up with you 4 times. I don't know what makes him keep coming back to you... but I don't think it's love. I think it's laziness. Apparently he goes out into the world looking to find someone else, but when he can't he comes back to you. Because you are the easy way out of loneliness. It's totally wrong, but men are selfish like that sometimes.
I know your heart is broken, but you deserve LOVE. And this guy isn't giving it to you. Let him go, heal your heart, don't look back -- and don't settle for this kind of soul-crushing, self-esteem killing apathy.
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reader, Melys  +, writes (20 November 2009):
 It sounds like he just wants you when it's suitable for him! No wonder he's smiling and seeming ok, he has the best of both worlds...and you're the one who's suffering.
It's horrible being messed around, you deserve someone who wants to care for you and want to be around you don't you?
Feel the fear and don't give him any more of your precious time...move on and find someone better...
Good luck x
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (20 November 2009):
He's broken with you at least four times!! And he doensn't appear to feel pain!! Are you really sure you want to be with this guy, because I don't think he has the slightest clue as to what he wants. You can wait around for him forever, and this will continue to happen, or you cn do what I think deep down you know you rally have to, which is to end it and find someone who will commit to you and care for you. Your not his toy to call upon when he likes it. Don't let yourself be treated this way by one guy, when there is another out there who will make you feel loved and actually commit to you
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