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writes:Hi I would really like the aunts interpreration of this man. I'm in a relationship with a guy we are both around 60. we have great sex and enjoy it very much.but sometimes he doesn't cum like today he always tells me how beautiful the love making is and he is always kind and considerate to my needs and he loves to see me reach orgasm.but it worries me sometimes when he doesnot cum and when i mention this to him he just says Don't say that i just luv it when you cum that excites me more than anything i luv the way you feel and i luv having sex with you.that gives me great pleasure.and i feel like a man? that last bit i don't understan what he means by that.I wonder if somewhere in his past he has been ridiculed by a woman. i still think his needs are important i just don't understand why he doesn't feel the sameAm i making to much of an issue out of this. I don't want to upset him as i have a lot of strong feelings for him.
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reader, Aunty BimBim +, writes (20 November 2009):
 He is telling you that he doesnt have a problem with not coming every time, and that he enjoys making love to you, its making love with you and the fact you enjoy it that makes him feel like a man.
Enjoy your lovelife, dont make an issue about this, the man appears to love you very much.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (20 November 2009):
I wouldn't worry about it to be honest. Some men find it harder to come as they get older. The spirit is willing, but the flesh is weak, as an old saying goes. I think he really enjoys being with you, and I think he has fun with you and I think he was being completely honest. Enjoy being with him, because he enjoys being with you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 November 2009): My boyfriend is 44 and he doesn't come very often either. He tells me seeing me cum is exciting, fantastic and all the rest but it doesn't make him cum. He has to finish himself off with a hand job. I have questioned him in great depth about this and he says if I am too wet he doesn't get enough grip and if sex goes on for too long then the feeling goes and he can't cum. I have tried making him cum first by concentrating solely on pleasing him and different positions and this works but only if he thinks of something really dirty that turns him on. I also think when men get older they find it harder to come and it takes a lot more to get them to that stage. The worse thing appears to be if you go on about it as I do, as this makes it even harder for them / puts them off, makes them feel different and then they are totally unable to cum. I think the best idea is to stop him pleasuring you and making you cum first and make him cum first and if that doesn't succeed then let the conversation on this subject die.
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