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writes:So, I talked to a guy on plenty of fish for 2 weeks and decided to add him on fb. And now we rarely talk. He will like or heart pics of me but never write me or call me. I always initiate our conversations. Should I just unadd him and move on. I mean he is really nice and stuff but he doesn't seem interested anymore.
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reader, N91  +, writes (28 May 2018):
 Yes, if he wanted to talk to you he would do.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 May 2018): He's being a polite Facebook friend. He's not interested romantically. Your options for other romantic-pursuits are still open. You can keep him on as a FB contact; or delete him. Your call!
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (26 May 2018):
 Just block and remove him. If he isn't making an effort to talk to you, or find a way to meet up or whatnot... after ONLY 2 weeks of talking... then stop wasting YOUR time and move on.
Find someone who is looking for the same things.
You can't clap with one hand, OP. In order for this to progress there needs to be interest from BOTH sides.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (26 May 2018):
 Yes, he does not sound interested . Looking pics is something nowadays that lots of people do almost automatically, without attaching any special meaning to it -they may be waiting for their coffee to be ready, or even sitting on their toilet.No much thought or feeling needed to like some pics, just habit and some sociable instincts.
It may perhaps be true that this can be a very shy guy, or a little awkward socially, or new on the dating scene etc.etc- but, whatever his reason for being so lukewarm , and it may be a perfectly good reason, -still that feels like pulling teeth, doesn't it ?
Why do you want to be in the position of being constantly forced to sweat it to get some attention ?
You particularly fancied this guy,ok - then again, I think and hope that in just 2 weeks you have not developped yet such a deep attachment, that you can't bring yourself to let go of him, and choose instead someone whose level of enthusiasm will match , if not exceed , yours.
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reader, femmenoir  +, writes (26 May 2018):
 This guy is either very insecure, very shy or he's simply not interested in you, as you are in him.
He may like you, but perhaps not as you like him.
I do believe, if he truly liked you "as more" than just a mere friend, he'd be more open to discussion with you and want to get to know you more.
You can try to initiate "every" conversation and you may well get replies, however, is this really the type of relationship that you seek?
If not, then i would fully walk away from this connection, before you get in too deep and be left feeling very hurt.
It's up to you, but i doubt this guy is going to improve in his approach toward you, certainly not in the near future and maybe never.
There are plenty of better fish in the sea and you deserve better.
You have to assess this in a logical sense and come to the realisation that, this isn't the type of relationship you want and it's obviously making you feel somewhat unhappy and confused.
You don't always wish to be doubting and questioning, because when you have to do these things, something is obviously very wrong.
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reader, Youcannotbeserious +, writes (26 May 2018):
 Trust your gut instinct and stop wasting time on this guy. He may be "really nice and stuff" but, if he is not interested in anything but liking a few photos of you, then there is no future.
If you really like what you know about him so far, you could always suggest you meet up and see what his response is. It may be that he is just shy and doesn't know how to initiate conversations and contact. However, if that is the case, then be prepared to always be the initiator in any relationship you have with him.
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