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female
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41-50,
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writes:My boyfriend and I come from very different backgrounds. He comes from the perfect family, they helped him buy his home, he is still on their insurance, he is supported in all he wants to do. I come from a very different background. I get no assistance from my family and if I went missing they probably wouldn't even know it for weeks..maybe even months. I have taken myself out of my old living situation and I am trying to make my life better, but I have money problems and can't finish college because of money as well...It is hard for us to talk about certain things like family or money because our backgrounds are so different..Should I be trying to make this work between us?
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reader, Hopeful Romantic +, writes (24 September 2008):
 If you like him, then yes! You should be trying to make this work! Fist of all, if your background is so different, then you should be with a guy who has things a little bit easier - it will make things easier for you. If you got w/ a guy who had a similar background as you, you will continue to struggle the rest of your life. At lest w/ this guy, you may be able to have a better future w/ a better financial setting.
I grew up poor w/ negative parents. My boyfriend grew up with money w/ very positive parents. Even to this day, when I am negative, he is positive & helps me see the brighter side of things. I honestly do not think I would see the brighter side of things without him pointing them out to me.
You stay with him & keep your head up. It will get easier to talk abou the things that are hard to talk about now. Just be honest and maybe giggle when you say, "Yeah well, you know I'm poor. HA HA!" ... does this make sense?
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reader, WiredReds +, writes (24 September 2008):
Are you in this for love or money? Ask yourself that question. Do you want to be with him cause you love him or because you are a gold digger?
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