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writes:my boyfriend cheated on me back in april and now this chick is calling me telling me that she is pregnant with his baby. he dont want anything to do with her and she is only talking to me about the situation. what am i suppose to do about this? we have already made our way past the fact that he cheated but he keeps saying she is lying and its not his. i dont know what to do. someone please help me out here
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 July 2009): Why are you dealing with this girl? You didn't get her pregnant? Are you the father's mother?Get this monkey off your back. Tell the girl to deal with the boy and if he won't talk tell her to talk to her parents. I'm sure they'll know what to do. I'm sure he'll man-up once you mention you're going to be contacting them(If you're certain it is his child).
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reader, fyfx +, writes (24 July 2009):
 Perhaps you should strongly reconsider and reevualte this relationship in your life. For whatever reason your boyfriend has been unfaithful which breaks trust and does damage to the relationship. Furthermore if he is the father of this innocent child then he will need to step up and be father to despite the current status of the relationship with the mother. This unborn child deserves to have healthy relationship with parents whom provide care and love unconditionally. If he is NOT the father then I would strongly advise getting yourself checked out for any potential STD's because the ramifications of him having sex with others whom have sex with others and, obviously, unprotected is very scary.You should not be involved in any way with this situation. This is his issue and he needs to deal with his business. The fact he has already did damage to your relationship he should, out of compassion, deal with this without involving you to protect you and your feelings. If he is NOT the father then he needs to, again, take care of his business so it does not effect you. You should have a serious talk with him and ask if he has been unfaithful any other times prior to the "baby" situation. Unbeknown to you he might have had other lovers that would hurt you emotionally but the ramifications of sexual promiscuity can be alarming. Again, go to the free clinic if you have too under anonymity but get yourself checked out.You will have to make your own decisions on what is acceptable and what is not. Personally the "NOW WHAT DO I DO?" ... would of translated and been done. I would of been long rid of him and moved on to greener pastures ... after I went to get checked out for STD's.He is not worthy of you or your time. Value yourself and put some expectations on what boundaries you want in a relationship.
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reader, Quacked  +, writes (24 July 2009):
 Whether or not your boyfriend wants anything to do with this girl he should be stepping up and at least helping you deal with this. She might be lying but if he slept with her then there is at least a small chance that she isn't lying!If this were me i would not deal with my boyfriends problems alone, he did it so must face the consequences - that he may be a father. Together tell this girl that once the baby is born (if she is in fact pregnant) then you'll get a DNA test done, until then you don't want to hear from her...If it's your boyfriends then he'll have to decide what he's going to do. He doesn't have to like her just tolerate her to be there for his child.Don't put all of this on your shoulders, you didn't cause this he did...make him take responsibility. Him refusing to deal with this isn't helping anyone it's just allowing his fling to put pressure on you.I hope this helped...
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reader, citris +, writes (24 July 2009):
 My advice is that 1) your boyfriend should be dealing with this woman, NOT you. It was his indiscretion, therefor it is HIS responsibility. 2)If he really doesn't think that this child is his, he needs to ask her for a DNA test. If the child isn't his, end of problem and you and your boyfriend can continue moving on. If the child is his, then you have another problem and that is, this woman and her child are going to be a part of your lives forever. If he fathered this child, he should ante up and take the responsibility for it, meaning that the woman he cheated on you with will be his "baby mama" and you'll have to deal with that. Either way, as I said, this is NOT your responsibility to be dealing with this woman, he needs to be man enough to do it himself.
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reader, Alexiedos +, writes (24 July 2009):
 Unfortunately you cant trust either of them, i think the mother of the baby needs to prove he is the father by DNA test otherwise you cannot fully trust she is lying. Then when the results come out you need to decide what you want to do then if the result shows him to be the father.
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