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writes: Whenever me and my bf have sex, we never have foreplay beforehand, which I'd really like to. Sometimes he tries to push himself up me, when I'm not even lubricated.. This is quite painful.How can i encourage foreplay?Please help me! Thankyou.
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reader, xapathyxrebornx  +, writes (10 January 2008):
 hun talk to him about it, sex is very intimate and there should be no secrets! let him know you need to be turned on so both of you can enjoy and suggest maybe him being more adventurous =]
good luck x
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 January 2008): my boyfriend was the same as yours except he gave oral and he was very inexperienced at that oral to him was just tickling my clit with his tongue,which i enjoyed but he'd never explored or ventured any further i taught him how to give and receive pleasure whilst giving oral and how much nicer it was when he used his fingers combining both together,now even foreplay without sex is just as exciting for us both,it is about both of you receiving foreplay so my friend you will have to take the lead here and he will soon be enjoying a great sex life with you
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reader, Neboraic +, writes (9 January 2008):
Tell him about it. He may not like it, but if hes a good boyfriend he will do this for you to make you happy.
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reader, anon_e_mouse +, writes (9 January 2008):
 I agree with birdynumnums when she says you'll have to guide him. My first love taught me everything I know and then the rest I picked up through experimenting when I was with my second love.
However, rather than have a sit down and chat about it I reckon you'd be better off asking him to try something and then tell/show him how much it turns you on when he does it.
You could even initiate a game where you do favours for each other to start off.
Every bloke out there likes to think he's great in bed. So just subtley suggest trying things and then encouraging him by showing and telling him how much it turns you on.
I'm sure he'll notice the difference. Tease him a bit and make him earn it. It's great fun. When all said and done tell him how much better that was... And how AMAZING it was and then watch him swagger about thinking he's a sex god.
As a guy, there's nothing better than knowing you can drive her wild BEFORE you get your reward.
Best of luck :)
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reader, birdynumnums  +, writes (9 January 2008):
 First, open your mouth. Then say "Stop that. That is quite painful. I'm not lubricated. How about some foreplay?". He doesn't think that it's necessary Because you're not telling him. The best way to improve your sex life is to not be shy talking about sex in (or out of) bed. It sounds like he needs a lot of guidance, so you are going to have to get brave and open up your mouth. Most guys do need to be coached, so that's all very normal. AND most guys need to be coached on how to get you to orgasm as well. If you haven't voiced any of this to him before, he probably thinks that his love making is great and that there isn't a problem here, so unless you do start talking, be prepared for more of the same. It's hard, initially, to open a conversation about how to improve your sex life, but it will get easier in time, and opening up a dialog between you is the ONLY way to improve your sex life. Good luck with everything!
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