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writes:I'm 17, and took a pregnancy test today and it said positive. What are the chances it's a false positive?I only took the test because the end of my last period was 40 days ago. Also my boobs are really sore and feel like they've grown, I've had period like pains [which I thought was my period coming] and feeling like I'm going to be sick but not actually being sick. If I'm being honest I expected it to be a not pregnant. I bought 2 so I'll take another on Friday, as I have the Doctors App on Monday morning. I really can't believe it, the 2 lines where really dark.And on Monday my boyfriend of 3 years said that he didn't know where to go from here. He doesn't know about the test yet and I really haven't done anything wrong he's just being grumpy cause he sometimes is.But now I'm scared because I can't do this on my own. If the baby is there, I want to keep it. But I have college [I'm in my second year] and in September I need to get a job in a Nursery then do my Level 3 Degree. And I will need my boyfriend to help me out with the baby. I am just really upset he's chosen now too be like this. When I get the definite answer on Monday I'm going to tell him, but I have no idea how.
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reader, always.you  +, writes (13 January 2008):
 if you got a positive your are most likely pregnant and i hope that everything works out and if your boyfriend really does care he will be there for you and the baby keep me posted i want to know how things go for you!
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 January 2008): When I tell my family & friends, they will help me and be supportive. And I do think my boyfriend will help, his Dad left so he knows how it feels to not have your Dad their.
I'm just glad it's now and not earlier, or else I might not of been able to finish my course so I'll probably be able to do what I want with education but just make sure the baby is ok. I don't want to give it up because I know when I know it's going to be ok I'll regret it and worry about if it's ok with the adoptive parents. Although I don't know how my boyfriend will react I know he will end up being a good Dad, he's always said he'd be confused and mad at first but would love the child.
I think I'll be ok, and hopefully by the time the baby gets here I will be in part time employment for my degree so I can stay at home and work to pay for everything. By the time I'm sure of everything I'll know what I'm doing. It's just at the moment I'm puzzled and in shock a little.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 January 2008): Hello Honey, the tests are usually 99% accurate but to be sure i would definatly go and see your GP aa he will be able to give you advice and support even if your boyfriend will not. Tell him as soon as possible you never know he could be so pleased and ready to be a daddy. Explain it from your point of view and how you want to be a little family and need his help and support. If he is completly against it maybey he isn't the man you thought he was, there are plenty of support groups that women in your situation can turn to. What about your family they can be amazingly supportive and could look after the baby whilst your at work. A child is a blessing will this child be brought up in a safe and financialy secure environment with a familly who love it dearly? I'm sure whatever you do will be for the best! Take care of yourself all my love G...X
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reader, EllenMF  +, writes (9 January 2008):
 are you sure you want to keep it?
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reader, Frank B Kermit  +, writes (9 January 2008):
 Tell him immediately. He needs as much time as he can get to absorb it.
It sounds like whether or not he is there, you are not ready to raise a child yourself. Do you have family to support you? Is adoption an option if abortion is not?
-Frank B Kermit
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 January 2008): Pregnancy tests aren't often wrong, so you'd better start some serious planning if you're going to keep the baby.
As for telling him, that's easy. You sit him down, tell him you're pregnant and that it's his and see what his reaction is.
You might think you're ready to be a mother but you'd better be prepared to put your life on hold for quite some time yet. He might not want to be a father yet so you can't guarantee his support, other than financially unless he's still at school in which case if he's not earning he can't pay up. If he argues it's not his you'll have to get the CSA involved, DNA test and so on and so forth.
This could be the start of some major upheaval to your future plans, so you'd better be sure you really want this baby and can support it. They don't come cheap, I can tell you, and you can't rely on the state to give you a free ride.
Best of luck - you'll need it unless you win the lottery.
Phil
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 January 2008): Good luck honey, I hope it all goes okay
The best thing to do will be to check with the docs then let him know :S
Hopefully he will be understanding and supportive even if he goes into shock for a while, remember when guys get news like this their shock can sometimes seem hurtful because I had a friend who told her bf she was pregnant and he hit the roof and wen crazy, then came bak the next day and had really thought about it and was really excited and now they are getting married!!
So be prepared, guys arent very good at handling this kind of shit, in fact neither are girls.
Good luck and if you decide to keep it, Im sure you'll be a great mummy
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xxx
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