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writes:Okay, well I just graduated from high school, and I was dating this guy, since freshman year, and in the middle of this year, he just broke it off. No reason, nothing, he just ended it. It shattered my heart, and it feels like its in so many peices I can't even begin to fix it.I don't understand how you can do that to someone, love them for 3 years then not. It makes no sence, but when have guys ever? I just, can't get over him. I was so convinced that this was the guy. He was my best friend before we started dating, and he told me, that he loved me and he knew we where going to be together forever, and I know how foolish am i for trusting him, but i wanted to believe him.I trusted him with everything, and i thought i would be over it by now, but it hurts more than ever, i just want to know, how the hell can someone do that? He knowing more about me than anyone, how? With no answers, nothing. He aviods me and I have let him know, with no sympathy, that he hurt me. how can I get over some who was such a big part of me, going off to college makes it so much harder. I want us to still be friends, because I love him, and im not sure how... Please, anyone who has had this happen or just knows how to get over this, please help, guys: why would he do this? Im so confused, and idk, i miss him to much, but i know I have to move on.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 May 2008): Hi there,
This is really weird. My boyfriedn of 4 years just broke up with me last night so I'm in the same boat. I live in Australia though. Thanks guys for your answers. It was also my high school sweetheart and I loved him greatly but I guess pining won't help. Just have to move on and smell the roses. I know it may have been the only thing that made you happy. That's how it was for me, but we WILL find happiness again. MORE happiness. Talking to many different people will help and you'll be suprised at some of the wisdom you'll receive and how much people love and appreciate you exactly how you are. Anyway take care and best of luck in your new and exciting journey :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 May 2008): I'm sorry that you gave your love and trust to this boy, and things didn't work out. I'm sorry you feel so bad. This has happened to most people, everyone you know has a story about what happens when love ends. The younger you are, the more likely it is that your relationship will end.... Why did he leave. People change, people change all the time. They change their hobbies, change their intrests, they change their friends. He is too young to have made the promise to love you for ever.
There is nothing you can do. There is nothing he can do. He loved you and loved being with you once, he no longer feels the same way. You love him. loved being with him, and miss him. This you can also do nothing about. It hurts, but you will heal, because you will also change and find new interests and friends, and build a life that dosen't include him. At the moment your crying about the future you could have had with him. Dry your tears and think about the new future you will have with you.....
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reader, Minelisse  +, writes (22 May 2008):
 Hi there...
I know it might be difficult for you to realize this right now as this is your high school sweet heart, but, he is not a bad person for ending a relationship he didn't want to be in anymore. He would have been if he cheated on you or treated you like crap, but he decided to end that relationship for whatever reason. I know, I have been there, and it sucks and it is painful and you just want him to love you and be with you forever, but, the sad truth is he is not. Reasons are important for a closure, but he is not ready to do that. He might feel guilty, he might feel sad, he might think this is the best way to cut it off... someday you will have those answers, life will give them to you. However, right now he is not ready for that. That, however, does not mean you can't move on! Believe it or not there are a lot of cool, sexy, single hot guys in college and, in time, you will meet someone who makes you laugh again. And maybe he is not the one either, but you will meet someone else afterwards.
It will take time to heal a broken heart, but try not to see it as a bad experience. You shared your life with this guy for three years and he knows everything about you just as you know everything about him. Sadly, it had to end, for whatever reasons that you can not understand right now. Be thankful for the shared times and laughs and be positive that life will bring you something different, new and exciting, when you are ready to receive it. Make your grievances, burn or toss or go to the gym and run like forever, and then let go. Life has divided your paths just as it one united them. Get ready for the next experience.
There is a saying in AA: Let go, let God. Best of lucks!
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reader, Emaz help  +, writes (22 May 2008):
 You're still very young and un experienced with 'love'I've been in love with someone for 2years, ill never stop loving him but i just can't see the point in waiting for him anymore.Anway, you will get over it, you always do! But it may take a while. Show him that you're not bothered by what he did (even if you are) which will really annoy him, well that's what i'd do anywayThe best way is to stop talking to/about him and you will eventually get over him and find someone who deserves you and treats you right:]
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