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female
age
41-50,
anonymous
writes: HiThis is a bit confusing and long but the basics I need answered as I'm going mad. I recently met a bloke who I really like and tells me and other people how much he really likes me. Lovely very considerate. Asks me out for drinks/meals meet pals. Then the bad side - he previously had not really met or spoken to us. He asked my best pal for her phone number asking her out for a drink even though he apparently really liked me and had gotten my number asking me out for drinks. They now text quite a lot to each other which bugs me. I have had problems with my friend before where she ends up "stealing the bloke". Well he has started going on about how hot she is, he constantly comments on her to me as well as her. I have discussed facts that I have trust issues with her and others in general yet he continues to do this. He spends entire nights out talking to her then comes to me at the end of night. I think he's playing mind games and manipulating me as he can be really sweet telling me stuff but I think this is only words.Finally, it's her birthday coming up (him and pal bought me champagne at my birthday) he said cause he bought me it, he had to buy her some when out plus he has rearranged plans so he can go to her birthday night even though I can't. Please tell me what you think. I think I'm being taking the piss out of, or am I being overly sensitive?
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 March 2007): Hum... sounds like you need a new boyfriend and a new friend. I personally would have no use for either one of the people you have described.
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male
reader, anonymous, writes (16 March 2007): I think you are very right in thinking he is taking the piss. Gathering from that information he is clearly having the best of both worlds and keeping his options open by keeping you and your so called best friend sweet. Ask yourself why cant you go to your best friends birthday night out yet he can? After all you are supposed to be her best friend. And what a best friend she is having done this to you before yet she's repeating it again. If I was in your shoes I would break up my friendship with your best friend as no best friend would carry on like this and lose the contact with him as hes clearly a player and go and find somebody who is more commited to you and hopefully get yourself a proper relationship, as right now this in no relationship and he is no boyfriend by the sounds of it.
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