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writes:I have been best friends with my male friend for 7 years. We both were in long term relationships for most of the time we have known each other. My bf and I broke up about a year ago and this last year my best friend has been having relationship problems too. Well, I dont know how it happened but we both have developed very deep feelings for each other. I knew he liked me but since he still had a gf i thought that it might be lust. He finally admitted one night that he really wants to be with me but hes in a difficult situation since hes been dating her so long and hes always liked me since hes met me. I thought he was stringing me along and I didn't trust what he was saying. Well a few days later he broke up with her and he told me how much he really cares. How do I go about this relationship without ending up a rebound? He was with his girlfriend for 4 years.HELP!
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reader, dirtball +, writes (12 January 2011):
 I'd be willing to bet that this isn't just a rebound. During the tenure of your friendship he's likely harbored some feelings for you that he's just repressed. I think it would be good if you take things slowly, but don't miss this opportunity. You've been friends this long for a reason. I really hope that your relationship works out taking that next step!
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reader, Learner.uk  +, writes (12 January 2011):
 Hi,If you like him and feel the same but dont rush into it and make that clear! Take your time, dont jump straight into bed with him, go on dates get to know him again and see if he is the same person as you think, also giving time will let your feelings settle abit and gather your thoughts on the situation and this will also give his head time to clear.I have been their as a bloke and come out of one relationship panicked as I was single/thoughts were messed up and jumped into the deepend with someone else only to regret it 2 month's down the line! This was unfair on me but most of all unfaire on the girl I had met!I never do this again, lesson learned! Just make sure you know what is going through his head how he feels and again take your time dont rush!Hope this help's out, take it easy.
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reader, petina1 +, writes (12 January 2011):
 Tread extremely carefully. There's no harm in still being best friends a little while longer just to make sure that both your relationships are at a complete end. If not then you wil get yourself into a mess. He is definately on the rebound, he needs time to sort himself out.
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