A
female
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:I've always wanted a summer fling, and I think it's become more than that to the guy I started seeing. I met a guy on a 2 day trip last month and he is great. He's funny, intelligent, able to hold a conversation. And we are both going to be seniors in high school. I consider myself quite mature for my age and I've noticed that the people at work have noticed that I've grown so much, mentally and physically. I take care of a family business alone for most of the summer and I've been asked out by a few older guys.. probably 20's to near 30's (and no, I have yet to go out with any of them). It's fun interacting with customers and I enjoy going to work for the people. So anyways, we met up a few weeks after the trip and went to the movies together. Before that, we talked online and flirted online. It was all fun. During the movie he kissed me quite a few times, and at the end, he gave me tongue. I was pretttttttty suprised when he did that. I wasn't expecting that considering it was our first date. It wasn't as romantic as I expected either. Too many kisses killed it, personally. I don't want to have a relationship with him. But I have a feeling he does. He already said he loves me after like 3 days of talking. But that's so overused nowadays I don't know if it's really real. The farthest I've gone is I like you, and that's it. I'm thinking this is more of an infatuation phase. I'm supposed to see him sometime next week or so, but I'm not sure if I want to. I also think it's because I haven't seen/talked to him lately so the lust is fading. Should I give him a chance? I love the phase that I'm at at right now. I want to date around, flirt, without feeling so guilty. I don't want anything serious at the moment, because right now, I'm head over heels for boys. What do I dooo??
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reader, accused +, writes (5 August 2007):
 Hey I feel that you've already answered your own question... If you know what you want, which most ladies don;t these days then you should stand up for what YOU WANT! Never back down from your WANTS.. If you want to be free then you be free! thats what you have a mind for to make your own choices... If this man is already telling you that he loves you after so little time, then maybe you should ask yourself another question.... Is this man ok? He tells you he loves you only after 3days of talking? He knows nothing about you! Has he been around when you get that so called (bitch mode-pms)... I think that some people want to love and be loved so bad they are willing to sacrifice everything for it... But in the end you have to be content with you and only you.... I think your on a mature level as far as knowing what you want..... So trust yourself... Best of luck
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (5 August 2007):
 If you don't want anything serious at the moment, then that's all you need to do.
About his loving you, maybe what he means is he fancies you. Or, he is infatuated, indeed. But perhaps he wants to explore a serious relationship indeed. In any case, your mind is made regardless of what he wants. Just be careful not to date this guy, since he wants more than you will give.
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