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*pendy
writes:How can he do that?? thats soo cruel:(?my ex boyfriend and I were together for 2years..he started accusing me of cheating when i wasn't and then the other he told me hes got a girl/wifey and he has given her a ring, he loves her soo much.he said am a nice girl,loving passionate, caring and everything but he just needed a companion and i was the one for him. and hope i find a guy who would love me cos am a wifey material.i am heart broken..cant stop crying.. how can a person be soo cruel:( i loved him sooo much..it hurts:(HUGSthnx...x
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reader, Tigerlily  +, writes (17 April 2010):
He sounds evil. Truly evil. Be grateful you are well clear of him. I'm so sorry for your pain. Someone really needs to give a mandatory class to men about how to break things off with a woman without traumatizing them, the way this man has done to you.
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reader, oliviaclairex +, writes (17 April 2010):
 Write down all his bad points, including the facts he had someone else, cheating, left you etc.
Now just imagine meeting this guy! If he asked you out again now, would you honestly want to get back with someone who will do this, and if you think about it; 'The One' you're meant to be with will be absolutely perfect in everyway and if he's done this he surely isn't is he?
Just tell yourself you're a strong women and you're going to go out and find yourself a better guy which i'm sure you will. Although maybe first enjoy lots of time with friends and just think you have more time on your hands now! you can go out whenever you want! have fun etc and don't have to worry about someone else for the moment!
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (17 April 2010):
I'd say that the chances are he had someone else and chose to blame you because he didn't have the nerve to just say it and move on. This isn't your fault and you didn't do anything wrong. Take time to get over this, and you'll find a much better guy.
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reader, rcn +, writes (17 April 2010):
 Always remember, when you're not cheating, if you are accused of doing so, and his behavior changes, he's the one who has someone else.
This is cruel. It does hurt. But you have to allow him to make his choices. It may not be the one you would have liked, but he is an individual, and can take his life in the direction he feels it needs to go into.
He needed to be honest with you from the beginning. If he was looking for a companion, he should have stated that. A big problem we see in relationships is this not communicating what people are looking for. One wants to play the other wants commitment. Someone always gets hurt in those situations.
There's a guy out there for you that will give you all the love, compassion and caring that you deserve. Something that is real and not temporary. I can almost be, his girl now will find herself where you are now at some point to. It's sad, because he will continue a path of hurting others any time his interests change and he has to change girlfriends to meet the new interest.
Everything will be okay. You didn't do anything wrong. It sounds like you were just with someone who is not the most stable guy out there. I wish you the best of luck and finding that someone who will stop time just to be with you. Take care.
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