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writes: My bf and I just ended our relationship after a yr and 1/2. We love eachother and want to stay close. Last night we were talking about sex. And if we could still do that. I am not sure I can handle that. Anyone who has experience getting back with their ex please write about it and tell me how it went. He lives out of state and this would not happen for a while. We are taking time to be on our own first before we even get our belongings back. Reply to this Question
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reader, PR_Scorpio  +, writes (7 July 2011):
I have been in this situation where I've had sex with an ex thinking we could keep it at just sex with no strings attached. Unfortunately, it did not work for me because my emotions were still involved. I couldn't disconnect my feelings and emotions from the sex. It's very difficult to disconnect emotionally once you have truly loved that peson and just have sex with them. Some guys may have an easier time doing this than us girls. My advise is don't do it. If the relationship is over and there is no reconciliation in site, I would just close the door completely and move on. You deserve better! Good luck!
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reader, MissTellAll +, writes (3 July 2011):
 I can say from personal experience you do NOT want to take this road. It's obvious there are reasons you want to be apart otherwise you wouldn't have broken up in the first place!From my experience, we continued to have sex, and he gradually became less and less affectionate. This broke my heart. How do you think you would feel in that situation? Sure, you have sex, but you don't get the affection. You have sex and he just gets up and walks out. Sounds pretty unbearable, right? Right.The best thing to do would be give his belongings back and distance yourself, if not completely cut contact. I say give the belongings back because I kept my ex's jacket after we had broken up. every time I looked at it it killed me that we weren't together. Don't do that to yourself. Either be with him or don't. Those are your options. Middle grounds almost always lead to even more unnecessary heartache.Hope this helps. Good luck.
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reader, Partyboy123  +, writes (2 July 2011):
 Hello,
I think this is a bad idea, not from personal experience, but just out of how it sounds.
you want to have sex with him, but you are not dating anymore?
here's the problem, you will become even more attached to him if you do, as will he to you, therefore, you will be so heartbroken and you will want him back, regardless of your relationship and its problems.. you broke up for a reason, keep that in mind, the sex will only make things more complicated
i suggest not doing it, but thats just me.
hope i helped.
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