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writes:I'm 16 and i want a baby now with my boyfriend who i've been with for 3yrs. i was told that because of a mutation in my genes as i get older it would be harder for me to give birth to a healthy baby. I am deeply in love with my boyfriend and i want a baby now. how do i ask him?
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reader, carebear  +, writes (4 April 2008):
 Thank you askoldersister I wasn't signed in at the time to reply to this young girl.Poster you decision should be made update us please and remeber think before you reply.
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reader, starfire +, writes (3 April 2008):
starfire is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you all! this is a serious desition and all of you have made great points. i still have to think about this but it's easier now. thanks
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 April 2008): Who is telling you to have a baby now at 16? they must need their head examined just like you do. how can you provide for a baby at your age? do you work? do you have your own home? can you afford medical and other bills?I think what they mean is do not leave it late in life to start a family not have one now!your bady is not even fully developed, you are still a child yourself again who is advising you about this?
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reader, kassie +, writes (3 April 2008):
 i was once just like you i wanted to get pregnant but thank god i didnt.you cant make your boyfriend get you pregnant if he dont want a kid and thats just how boys and men are. Girl im go tell you like this (sex cant make him like you and a baby cant make him stay) that is something that i had to learn and now i am 18 with no kids and proud bcuz i would not know how to take care of a child when i was just a kid (at 16 years old). im just saying girl you got your whole life ahead of you do you really think you can handle a child i dont have any but dont you know that children are expensive and they may take up your whole paycheck if you have a job and while buying baby stuff you could be buying you some new shoes and clothes.this is your decision though bcuz there is no need to rush your life.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 April 2008): Hmmmm, this is a hard one. Well 2 start it all of you're really young but I know plenty of teenage kids who are doing fine. My ex best friend got pregnant @ 14 and her and the father are still together taking care of one another. You can do it but you're just gonna need help that's all. And to be honest being a mom completely changes your life but its also one of the greatest joys of life. May God bless you sweety. Follow ur heart.Xoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxo Mrs.charles2b
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reader, Collaroy  +, writes (1 April 2008):
 Hi,
If your boyfriend is a teenager as well I'm sorry to say you won't have much luck.
I can't think of any teenage boy who wants the responsibilities of being a father. Then there are his parents, and your parents, they will need to be there to help, Will his parents be so keen to see their young son weighed down with the chores of fatherhood at so young an age - ask his mother this question for a good indicator of how people will react.
I'm sorry for you if you have this condition, but you are going to struggle to find someone so young to commit themselves to you - teenage boys think about their future - university, jobs, clubs, partying, mates, holidays, good times . They don't think about, paying rent, paying bills, changing nappies, sleepless nights.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 April 2008): what i would do is this tell him that your ready to have sex. And dont tell him that you want a babby just have sex and if you turn out pregnet after that then you can tell him. And forget dont use any condoms our you wont get to have any kids. After about 1 to 2 weeks you can take pregnets test to find out. good luck please litsen to me this is maybe the best way.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 April 2008): I was in the same condition however my problem was due to having severe ostio athritus which would deteriate over time. I had been with my boyfriend for 4 years. i had been told that my bones would become too fragile to allow me to carry and give birth to a baby due to the strain it would put on my joints. I explained to my boyfriend who was lovely about it. We ended up getting married and then getting pregnant. I concieved triplets, two identical girls (elodie and desiree) and a beautiful boy (jakb) who are now 2. My pregnancy was hard and i had a c section after 34weeks to prevent added strain on my body. I love my babies. I am 22 now and i love my life i have a loving husband and three treasures, it has been a long road and we both had to grow up fast but our relationship has become stronger through it. When the babies start at infant school i plan to retake my a levels and train to be a nurse. My husband is in his final year at medical school but still finds time to spend with teh babies and i. My advice would be to talk to him and allow him to have his say and understand it from your point of view. Good Luck Hun......X
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reader, x-kitycatlok-x +, writes (1 April 2008):
 Well if you really do want to have a baby, and now is the best time to do it, I suppose there's nothing you can really do. How... I think you should first tell him how much you love him. Then say how much you would like to have a family one day. Then tell him about the mutation, if he doesn't already know. I'd then ask him if he'd consider having a family with you now, since it's the only time that is really best. That's what I would say. I'm sorry if this doesn't work! You could always buy him a gift to warm him up a bit first. Wishing you the bestxx
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