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writes:Your Open Question:How should I act when I see my lying cheating ex boyfriend? ? My ex boyfriend lied to me, cheated and dumped me. I knew something wasn't right cos he said he doesn't want a relationship. I found out he was sleeping with someone else behind my back for 2 months.I rang the girl to get all the info from her, she told me everything in detail and she went to my ex and twisted the whole thing and said I rang to give her info, when she doesn't even know my name wtf?Anyways am seeing ex tomorrow night he wants to explain it all to me and I have to see him for personal reasons as well.Right now am so mad, I don't want him he's a liar and a cheat and I hate him, but I don't know how to act when I see him, I really don't wanna feel sorry for him and let him get away with it.Please help.. We're both in our 20's..I have to go so please help.. Thanks..xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 March 2011): Here's what will happen. He'll give you some sob story about how sorry he is and what a big mistake he made, you'll believe it and take him back then in about 2 months time he'll cheat on you again and you'll be back to square one.If you really hated him and didn't wan t to get back with him you wouldn't be meeting up with him. Fool me once, shame on you, fool me twice, shame on me.
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reader, VioletSparkle  +, writes (30 March 2011):
what about saying: I am really too mad to meet you tomorrow, let's meet some other time? that will also make him suffer some more.. If he insists on releasing his conscience, that's his problem, it doesn't have to be your concern. Tell him you are too mad and you will see him in a week. Is that other personal reason so important, can't anybody else do it in your place?
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (30 March 2011):
 Alternatively you could give him a smack. If my boyfriend ever cheats on me I told him I'd smack him upside down with my frying pan, and he said if he ever cheated, please do. Not to promote violence, just my honest opinion. Plot evil plans against him, that will also make you feel better.
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reader, lovelyeyes  +, writes (30 March 2011):
Don't give him the time or day! Don't even get and explanation for what? Tell him your over it. Meet up w/him for the personal reason and tell him u don't even want to talk about it cause your over it. Once u let him start talking he's got u back. Trust me this always happens. U will start to feel sorry for him. Don't feel sorry for anybody but yourself. He did this to u for 2 months. It wasn't a 1 night thing he knew this would kill u. How come he didn't feel sorry for u. Screw him and move on to the next. Once a cheater always a cheater. Obviously he's not happy when he's w/u or else he wouldn't even think about a nother girl. Good luck! Be strong and remember he didn't care about your feelings!
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reader, chigirl +, writes (30 March 2011):
Why meet him? Can't you just send someone else to get things from him if that's why you need to meet him?
I suggest you tell him you just want whatever it is you have to meet him for, get it over with, and leave. He doesn't have a right to explain himself or whatever. You don't owe him that. You can just do whatever it is you need to do, and then walk away. You could also bring someone else with you to meet him so you know you will keep yourself in check.
I remember once an ex called me after we had recently broken up, and he had said some hurtful things to me (reason I broke up). I couldn't help myself but fly off the handle that he dared to call me, and I threw whatever hurtful things he had said right back in his face, and all the while I was standing at a bus-stop with people around. But I was fuming with anger and didn't care if I had an audience.
Meeting an ex, or talking to an ex, who you want to rip the head off of, isn't a good idea. Perhaps you should wait until you have calmed down before you meet him. I would certainly not sit around and wait for him to "explain himself" at least. He doesn't deserve any of your time, and it will only hurt you more. It's pretty selfish of him if he insist on explaining things. He cheated. There's hardly anything to explain.
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