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writes:I'm really confused I've been alone for so long,and have been so unhappy.I finally meet a really great guy,and its all going wrong. At first when I thought he didnt like me, i found him really attractive. We started seeing each other as just freinds and I got goosebumps whenever he touched me, i really liked it. Then one day we kayaked over to an island near his house. we were talking and he pulled me onto his lap, which i liked, then he kissed me. I really wanted him to but it was terrible, felt like he was sucking my face off, i dont blame him for being a bad kisser, i'm pretty bad myself.. i think anyway. It was so terrible because suddenly I started thinking, oh my god I dont really like him at all and he thinks I do. I cried all over him, but hes such a nice guy he didnt care at all.Now wenever I see him, at first i'm glad to be with him, but after a while i feel really repulsed, I dont find him attractive anymore. It's not just because of the kiss.. its everything. when Im away from him I want him. when I'm with him I want to run. He wants to be with me all the time. I've started fantasising about other guys, anybody but him. i love that he's my boyfreind and I want it to stay that way, i just really dont want to see him in the flesh. Its too.. involved or something. we talk every day on the phone and computer, he tries to organise dates but i'm always avoiding it. I feel so bad but i just cant face him.oh and I'm 16.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (3 October 2009):
You can't just 'like him'. I think you have to be brave and let him find someone else. And you need to find someone who you do feel good with. This guy isn't for you. Yes, you like him, but you don't love him. And yoou can't just learn those emotions. You have to live them. Find someone yoou love. Dont hurt yourself as well.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 October 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI agree with u,I should leave him,its not fair on him.Oh and I havent been ignoring him,I talk to him every single day.The reason I'm still with him is because he has had such hard time with girls in the past.I'm so scared I'll hurt him really bad.i know this is stupid because if i keep going on like this he will end up in even more pain.I'm not playing with him either,I'm trying to be what he needs.he desperatly needs somebody to bring him into the light again,and it seems like i'm the first person who has tried to help.So wat are you all suggesting that I just drop him.After all he's been through I dont think I could.I really do care about him,but only as a freind,he won't understand that he will see it as another rejection.I posted this hoping someone could explain to me why I've lost all interest.I want to like him,i want to be right for him.
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reader, emilyjadeeO9 +, writes (2 October 2009):
trust me babe, he'snot the one for you. my last boyfriend made me feel exactly the same but now its over between us, and i dont miss him one bit xx
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (2 October 2009):
He isn't the guy for you. You need to be brave and end this relationship. He deserves comeone who will love him, and you deserve to be with someone who you love. There are other guys out there, you go and find one.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 October 2009): Poor guy!!! you just play with him.So,Just let him go. He deserve somebody really love him and care about him.
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reader, rockshredder  +, writes (2 October 2009):
 Oh my God! You are ignoring him? Girl wake up. He is an angel always wanting you and you ignoring him. You will be crying one day on loosin him.
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reader, Lola1  +, writes (2 October 2009):
 "i love that he's my boyfreind".
I think you love having a boyfriend. This boy is probably very nice and you enjoy him, but you aren't attracted to him anymore. You are forcing yourself to be with him.
It's time to let him go and see what else is out there. He deserves a girlfriend who loves him and WANTS to spend time with him.
Good luck.
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