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female
age
26-29,
anonymous
writes:I met this guy over this past summer. He is different then anyone I have ever known. We have so much in common. And we have this deep deep connection that I've never had with anyther person. We started talking in july and ended up going out. We became good friends with my friends especially my one best friend. We hung out all weekend last weekend and on sunday he started acting strange. I asked him what was wrong monday night when I called him after work and after much talking he realized that he still has feelingfor his ex of 2 and years. And that he wants to be together but wants to only focus on me. And he can't do that if he's getting over her. So we had to become friends and of course that's taking some time for me to adjust. I still really like him and same with him. But my best friend and him became friends and are now constantly texting in a non-romantic way but that really bothers me. I've tried being ok with it several times but that's not working out for me. I've spoken up about it to the both of them. He didn't really say much. And she doesn't want to stop talking to him. Which I'm not telling her to. They talk about me "mutually" as she says meaning not good or bad. They both want me to be happy and are trying to help. But I just don't see how they are trying to. She tells him every time I overreact because something happens between the two of us having to do with him. The only thing I see that would be good for me is not being in contact with him anymore. But honestly I don't want it to be at that point At this point I have cried several times. Had a panic attack also. I need to calm down and I don't no how. This is the second time a boy has done something like this to me. I just got over my ex and that took 6 months and I was back on my feet again. I met him hoping I'd be fine but then he pushed me to the ground again. Please help me out.
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reader, Mariab  +, writes (19 August 2011):
 Hunny...Until you are at LEAST 18, most encounters you will have with the opposite sex are not likely to be longlasting... till death do us part types. You have to just have fun, let go and enjoy being young. If it upsets you to be in comms with the boy then cut it for a while till you feel better. Also, your bestie and the boy... they are now friends in their own right so you have to accept that too. Good luck! xx
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reader, Jjang19  +, writes (19 August 2011):
At this age its just infatuation.. Feelings can come and go at any point in time. The best thing you can do is just not let them get to you
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