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41-50,
anonymous
writes:ive been married for one yr,wth hubby for 11-12 yrs now..he lives by mother,pays all bills,etc,while she's back and forth from abroad.she wants him to add on to the original home.suffice it to say,tht for more thn a month now,i have been mad as hell,we dont talk,i'm stress out,our marriage seems doomed,she didn't attend wedding,we hardly had sex to begin wth,now it's none existant.i feel like it was a mistake getting married in the 1st place,because for some reason i know in my heart tht he will never leave home,here,and tht gets me doubly angry at myself,cause deep down inside,i knew tht in my heart.it seems i've lost all respect for him as a man,because of how he continues to let his family manipulate and take advantage of him.now wth all the stress,there's ths huge distance between us,he goes to work 12 hr shift,we hardly see each other.no honeymoon,dont go out..i'm just sooo fucking tired,physically and mentally,thinking of it,it's been thus from the start..any advice would be welcome...t.y. i'm 35 he'll be 44 wednesday..
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reader, Auntie E  +, writes (20 March 2010):
 Marriage does not change a mamma's boy into a husband. It is clear that he is choosing his mother over you. What is in this marriage for you? By your own admission you have a nonexistent sex life, you are very angry and you don't respect him. You have already wasted 12 years of your life on this guy. Time to move on. Find someone who will choose you over his mother. That is the natural order of things.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 March 2010): First sit him down and talk to him. Tell him he has to grow up and stop being a mommies boy and grow up. Talk talk and talk you have to lay it out plain as day that youre not happy.If that doesnt improve things, then .....look for a nice guy?
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