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writes: Has anyone else resisted a mutual attraction to an in law for years only to end up having a weak moment and doing the forbidden? I have been married for over 15 years and have two kids that are young adults. My marriage has been good a majority of the time and rough for a period due to my wife having her own moment of weakness. I’m not blaming her for what I have done and even though she didn’t tell me everything I forgave her and we got past it. It was a few months before her affair that her mom moved in with us. Her mom and I have always been attracted to each other and it’s was joked about by my wife. We would flirt but if it was just the two of us we sort of avoided doing anything that would escalate things. Then for some reason one night when my wife and kids were visiting her brother my mother in law and I had sex. The encounter was so charged with pent up desires that it looked like someone ransacked the house after. We haven’t slowed down since and that was months ago.
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reader, Youcannotbeserious  +, writes (18 February 2023):
 If this post is genuine and not just an attempt to get a cheap thrill from others' stories, wow. Just wow. Your poor wife. Betrayed by not only her husband but also her own mother, because neither of them can keep it in their pants.
I hope you and your mother-in-law will be very happy together once your wife finds out. I hope your kids will accept their gran as their father's new squeeze and not be affected by the rift which will open up inside the family to tear it apart. I hope these things for you but, sadly, I doubt very much they will happen. Your wife will be devastated at being betrayed by the people closest to her, and your children will side with her as they will not be able to get their heads around the new family dynamics. They will possibly cut you and their gran out of their lives.
The background information you offer - wife's past infidelity, your forgiveness of this despite her not making full disclosure, children now adults - all points to you looking for ways to play down the consequence of your actions once they become known to the rest of the family. You think you are safe at present from being discovered, and you possibly are, but at some point, someone (most probably your wife) will notice or find something which will make her gut twist and will ring alarm bells. She might notice a look between you and your MIL, a subtle change in behaviour when she is around, or even find something which doesn't add up. She will then become a sleuth in working out what is going on. I doubt any of this will stop you doing what you are doing now as you are letting the wrong head make your decisions for you.
We can do anything we want in life but we always have to remember that there is a price to pay for the selfish decisions we make, the decisions which hurt others. I hope yours is going to be worth it.
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reader, RitaBrown +, writes (16 February 2023):
Why are you posting? The only question you ask is whether anyone else has done similar.
If you're just wanting to hear other people's dirty stories, then I think you're posting in the wrong place. We're a pretty straight-laced bunch here these days...
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