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writes:Ok so I'm 23 my bfs 25 we were dating for 4 months yet we have gone thru so much in so little time... yet he asked for space to make sure what he wants n to see if he's ready to make the next step which is marriage, yea sounds fast but we know each other from before. I really dont know what to think could it be someone else? I have a daughter from a previous relationship idk if the fact that my daughter's father is in the picture is a problem for him although he says he has nothing against her... everything just changed, I thought he was it and now I'm alone again... Has anybody taken a break and everything worked out in the end?
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 November 2009): ahh, taking a break. who hasn't had this happen? sometimes couples break up, take breaks, then realize they were meant for each other, but are those ever good relationships? i doubt it. i would move on. if he broke up with you, then "he's just not that into you."
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 November 2009): when my gf rang me one day saying we were taking a break, i asked straight away, ok whats the mans name your cheating with?, she then admitted it was barry. we broke for 6 months and then i let her move in. 3 years later and ive just found out for the 3rd time since moving in she is still cheating with her ex b4 me. im confronting her in 2 days and will be kicking her out. i have already got the locks to replace in the doors. ive had enough finally.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 November 2009): if they need space away from you then there feelings arnt that strong for you, find someone else who doesnt need to dissappear from your life for a bit.
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reader, Dr.LanceMerryweather  +, writes (19 November 2009):
 Aah - from personal experience, space means goodbye. I hope I'm wrong, but be prepared.Good luck.
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reader, Stayc63088 +, writes (19 November 2009):
 Ha wow I am going through that now. We dated for 4 months, he talked about getting married and how much he was in love with me, etc. We had a couple fights and small disagreements, nothing major at all, and the last fight we had he left. He had left before that and said he needed space, ended up coming back and obviously it didn't work out or last. I would like to say maybe he could come back and it would work but most likely even if he does come back it won't be forever. If you are having problems to the point where he needs to think it over in just 4 months then that isn't saying much for how he feels. It is hard as hell, I know what you are going through. In my situation it is the opposite way around in that he had a child though. But like everyone keeps telling me, do you even want to be with someone who leaves like that? Who needs to think about whether he wants to be with you or not? If he truly loved you why would it be a question at all, wouldn't you be worth any amount of effort? I hope everything works out but don't expect it to be with him. And remember even if he comes back it isn't necessarily permanent. Mine left for "space" came back a couple days later and continued talking about marriage, even getting married that weekend, and look where he is now. Good luck with everything.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (19 November 2009):
4 months in and he wants to take a break to see whether he wants to marry you? To be honest, that sounds a little suspicious. I've not known of anyone personally who has taken a break and then it's all worked out, but that doesn' mean it won't work. All I can say is that it sounds like he's not all that committed and please don't wait around forever.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 November 2009): I've taken breaks before and got back together but we always ended up splitting up in the end. I'm taking a break from my boyfriend (well he's taking a break from me!) at the moment too - so I really really hope that it does work out sometimes! It's hard and heartbreaking thinking about the possibility that it might not work out but if people need space and you don't give it to them it will just push them away in the end. Hope it works out for you.
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