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*eachTREE
writes:So after being a client for the last 5-1/2 months (he's my personal trainer, once a week) We started texting each other, then we starting sexting, sending pictures of our selves. He is not single, I am, however he is 17s my junior. We broke down and had sex, however it was not at all about me. I feel like a tramp. Literately there has been no more texting. I will be seeing him again, of course, I am not finished with my training. I don't want a relationship, however, I would of liked to have been treating a little more like a person, not sex thing. I have never done this before. I didn't want to cut all ties, cause I would consider doing this again with him. I just don't know if I should bother.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 December 2011): What does it say about you to go after what should be an unavailable man? You feel like a tramp? Well having remorse is a good thing. Lesson learnt.
Move on.
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reader, Mugzie69  +, writes (19 December 2011):
 In all honesty, PeachTree, you were a willing participant in this. Given the age difference, it might be asked who used who. You knew what you were doing when you sent those texts and photos. What can I say?
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reader, peachTREE +, writes (19 December 2011):
peachTREE is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWOW,Really it's not all his fault, your right. It won't happen again. It was not worth it.
Thanks for all your answers
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (19 December 2011):
 if you feel so trampy why would you consider doing it again?
if it was all about him why would you consider doing it again
If he's not available (he's now a liar and a cheater since he's in a relationship unless he had "a note" as we call it) why would you consider doing it again?
Not only would I not bother, I'd report him to the gym you hired him from and let them know he's not appropriate.
AND I'd get a new trainer.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 December 2011): I think you are confused here. You had a physical attraction, you acted on it. You are both adults and know the score. Do not over think it by asking yourself if you are hurt or has he used you. You used each other - that's it. That was the deal in a nutshell. Try to think of it in those terms. If you are considering a repeat performance, you need to disconnect yourself - otherwise you will feel shabby and hurt and in that case it would be a mistake.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 December 2011): Your right I think the using part of it is a "we" thing. We also worked our selves up to this. I guess I feel like a tramp because there was hardly any kissing, I guess the romantic part of it was missing. I feel he got his rocks off and I know I didn't. I will be seeing him again tomorrow, not sure how to act with him.
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reader, k_c100  +, writes (19 December 2011):
 Look - he is in a relationship and cheated on his partner with you, he was only ever going to use you for sex!! He already has a relationship, so all he will want now is just sex on the side, and you fit the bill nicely. I dont know what you expected from him? You say you dont want a relationship, but you feel used after him just wanting sex - so what else did you think was going to happen?
At the end of the day, this man is a cheat, a liar and clearly got what he wanted from you - sex.
Put this down as a bad experience, dont allow yourself to sleep with people in relationships anymore and move on - good idea to change trainers as well!
I hope this helps and good luck!
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (19 December 2011):
 I know how you feel, but I don't see why you feel used. Maybe you can elaborate on it so we can understand better (and I recognize that so far my "we" is only "myself"). You had sex with a younger man who is not single. How come he used you, as opposed to you using him, or both using both?
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