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writes:Hello. I am 23 year old. I met this guy in the university, he is 29. He didn’t know how to approach me so he started talking with my friend and that is how he got my email. We chatted and invite me to a friend's party, of course with my friend too. We went there and we just clicked and kissed. The next day he texted me and invite me out again to another friend's party. I didn’t go but I told him to stop later at home so we can watch a movie. He did, but we had sex. I don’t regret it, it was great. He told me that his friends were asking him about me but he said is nothing with expectations, because he has a broken heart from the relationship before. And he told me that. After sex. I don’t know if because of that I became more and more obsessive knowing that we don’t have nothing or because he doesn’t want to have anything!! Anyway next day we went to the movies and he stayed home. After that he stopped once at home and after that I didn't see him anymore. From time to time he texts me or we chat, but nothing else. He started working, and he doesn’t have any day off. So I can tell he is tired. The other day I told him: hey when are you going to come over? Just to let him know that I am interested in him too....was that too much? I don’t want to become obsessive but I thought relationships at the beginning is to be all the time together, especially if the other likes you. I don’t know if he doesn’t like me or he is just being careful, not to get hurt again. If he wasn’t interested he wouldn’t talk to me or text me anymore? I had a bad experience before in which I showed 100 % when the other only played with me. So, I always thinking and looking how the other acts. I don’t show if he doesn’t show. When we are together he is really sweet, I had relationships before, and I can tell that he is into me for the way he touches me or even looks at me. And even in public places we are like boyfriend/girlfriend. But I don’t get him. What should I do? Should I talk to him? Or just let him come to me? Or just forget it!!?! Maybe having sex too soon made him not want to chase me anymore?
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 May 2009): Hey guys! Thanks for the answers...not that encouraging as I wanted...but thanks anyway for the true....Ouch true hurts :p
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reader, Emerald2000  +, writes (20 May 2009):
The answer is obvious. It's because you had sex too soon. Guys like the chase and they don't like girls that sleep with someone easily. At least not for serious relationships. He is no doubt now worried that you sleep around and that would be very unappealing to him.
Sorry. But you should be told the truth and there is no way he will admit that to you. Guy code...
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reader, Rogerramjet +, writes (19 May 2009):
Yep, i think you were the rebound girl. Speaking as someone that did something very similar to a girl after a breakup, I would definitely recommend moving on.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 May 2009): How long ago did he break up with his girlfriend? If it was very recent, then (I may be wrong) it sounds to me like you were the rebound girl. If he doesn't start making an effort to see you then move on.
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