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writes:Ok I know this is bad, but a cute waiter hit on me in NYC this weekend. He could not stop looking at me all through dinner, then when I asked for my check, he said he would pay for it if I stayed (a $200 tab). We went to another bar and ended up having sex at the end of the night. I know this sounds bad, but I have only done the one night thing twice in my life- I was on my first week long holiday in 4 years!Any way, I was about to just kick him out the next morning, but he managed to find a pen and asked when I would be back in NYC. At the time I wasn't that into him, but now I kind of miss him- I also have his number. He begged me to call him when I got home- I haven't called, because I want him to call me. I don't have great expectations, but a cute email buddy and traveling back to NYC would be no big deal.Do you think he will call? I left Saturday- It is now Tuesday eve???? Reply to this Question
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reader, janhockeynut +, writes (21 November 2007):
janhockeynut is verified as being by the original poster of the question Hey Guys Guess what???? Last Tuesday at about 10 pm he called!!! I am going to NYC this weekend!!! so thank you all for your advice to call- I called and he called back and asked me to please come visit.
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reader, janhockeynut +, writes (13 November 2007):
janhockeynut is verified as being by the original poster of the questionIts Tuesday night......no response yet...I mentioned I missed NYC and him and that I would be back in a few weeks. He did not return the text or the call. No sure why he did not respond-its not like I want anything from him. I offered to email the photos that were taken......very strange he would not even return the text?????
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reader, janhockeynut +, writes (9 November 2007):
janhockeynut is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you everyone for your responses! I appreciate you taking the time to read my question and provide a well thought answer. I decided to call- go his voice mail, as you know he is a waiter and it is dinnertime. Any way I will let you know how it goes......basically, just mentioned I missed him and NYC, and I will be back in a few weeks as my sister lives in NYC.thanks!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 November 2007): Well I really hope he does call. I think he might call and is maybe giving it some time so that he doesn't seem desperate.
If I were you I would totally wait for him to call first. I guess I personally would NOT call just because I prefer guys to call me. I usually think it works out better when you wait for them to call first.
But I did that once with this guy I was so crazy about. We met. We had the best time or so I thought, and he insisted the next morning that I call him, instead of the other way around. I was like ok even though I am real shy. So I gave in and called him and we made plans to meet up. And I didn't hear back from him the next day and I never called again. But neither did he. But I was devastated. I cried for a week.
I used to believe in fate. But I never saw him again. I always had a feeling that I wouldn't. I guess that is why I called him. I was scared to lose him. Now I wish I had called again.
Maybe you should call him. But if you call him don't try to play it all casual or anything. I would be flat out HONEST and say "hey I kind of miss you and that is why I am calling."
But more likely I would just wait for him to call.
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reader, towapa  +, writes (7 November 2007):
 Or if you're too shy to call him, why not text him instead?
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reader, PM +, writes (7 November 2007):
 Don't worry, it doesn't sound bad. You're a woman and a sexual being and were simply doing what is in your nature. Society seems like to bash those who are willing to embrace the sexual sides of themselves, which I'm only beginning to see for myself.
To answer your question, it's rather hard to say. There just isn't enough there to base a conclusion on. I wish I could say that the fact that he ask for your number meant he was incredibly into you and wanted to see you again, but that's not always the case. I think a better question to ask is do you want to see him again? If you do then the only way to find out whether he wants to see you again is if you call him.
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reader, indibob  +, writes (7 November 2007):
probably not. He's probably thinking that you were treating it as a one off as you havent called him like he wanted.
If he was willing to pay your dinner tab, then i would imagine if he's really interested, he would offer to pay your flight back there when and if you call. Why not call him and see what kind of reaction you get. Whats to lose?
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