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writes:guys, be honest, do you compare your gf's body to those of the women you see in porn? and do you have mental images of the women you watch in porn when you're making love with your gf? thanks for any answers :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 February 2013): Good god, no. Porn is porn, and that means fake. I consider myself to be manly, and my friends are as well: we hunt, fish, play music and love women. But we never compare our girlfriends to porn stars. The thought of it disgusts me, frankly. Hope that helps.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 February 2013): The answer is the same bronzed adonis, they don't. I have heard women do that during "girl talk", I have plenty of female friends and have been the only guy in the room during drinking sessions and stuff. They do tend to talk about things like that but it's generally when they're single and just for discussion, and it's only really comparing ex's and not current boyfriends.
Being "one of the girls" can be very handy in terms of perspective. The women I know don't care about penises all that much unless they're abnormally huge or small. They're actually more interested in overall sexual style and like us they like the variety of it all and only really negatively reflect on an ex who may have been crap.
Seeing as porn sex is actually very shitty sex that most women really don't find appealing then there is no real comparison there.
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reader, bronzed adonis +, writes (25 February 2013):
 I havent watched any porn for some time now, but do not remember having ever compared a porn actress with any girlfriend ever. I am just as curious to know if any women ever compare porn actors penises to their present boyfriend?
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (25 February 2013):
 As a woman who watches porn now and then, who has had multiple partners I can tell you that I never compare my current hubby to my former partners, nor do I compare him to any porn stars I've seen
and when I'm with him, I'm with him. I reserve my fantasies for when I'm alone.....
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 February 2013): No. Just because I have strawberry ice cream doesn't mean I imagine it's vanilla as I eat it. I may even peruse to see all 31 available flavors. But in the end, strawberry ice cream is just as good of a dessert as the rest of them. And I'm grateful that I get dessert.
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reader, eddie85 +, writes (25 February 2013):
 Absolutely no.
Porn actresses are just that: a fantasy. Also the majority of porn actress that the average person would know hold no attraction to me (and most guys I know feel the same way). I think they are incredible fake and vapid. Sure they can get the average male aroused, but would they be someone I'd "love" -- no way.
There are two forms of sex and I think you are confusing the two. One is just getting off and the other is the melding of souls and knowing that you are with a person who has your best interests at heart. Porn will NEVER enter the mind of a man in the 2nd form of sex, while porn will drive the person to seek out the first form.
Love wisely,
Eddie
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 February 2013): I think Cerberus hit the nail on the head on this question. I would just like to tell you one simple way you can tell the difference from the "normal guy", and the rare addict.
The normal guy will just search for random videos that show the acts he likes, not caring who is in the videos. On the other hand, the addict will constantly be looking up actresses by names, and saving their pictures and videos, and viewing them over and over again. They're the ones who imagine having sex with the women in the videos, find the typical porn star body type "ideal", and compare you to them.
The normal guys don't, trust me.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 February 2013): "do you compare your gf's body to those of the women you see in porn?"
Nope. Do you compare your boyfriend body to Hugh Jackman's?
I doubt it, OP we guys aren't any more lustful of porn actresses than you are of regular actors. One is fantasy the other is our reality, the fact they're naked and having sex means nothing at all, they could be jogging in a bikini on a beach, makes no difference. Besides why would we? If we didn't like your body we wouldn't be with you. We can like seeing more than one body without comparing OP the same as you. I mean you can be impressed by another man's body without comparison can't you? Maybe think "I wonder what Jackman's pecs feel like to squeeze" without ever letting that be a negative reflection on your boyfriend right?
Well we're no different. The way I see it, it would be like comparing a Banksy to a Monet, I can like both so why bother?
"do you have mental images of the women you watch in porn when you're making love with your gf?"
No. We only see them for the 3 minutes it takes to have a wank OP. We see your face every time we close our eye's, how you think that can happen is beyond me.
OP the kind of guy who does the things you describe is exceptionally rare. An addict with an obsession to one porn star. Well guess what, most of us don't have a favourite porn star we just throw on a video and have a wank, I very rarely use the same one twice, the only time I have is when she looks uncannily like my fiancée and that's for the sole purpose of imagining its her.
Women are far more exposed to their famous rock star or actor crush than we are to porn stars. Do you imagine it's Usher fucking you when you fuck your boyfriend?
I don't get why women think we're so different when you're just projecting your own insecurities onto us.
There are weirdos who do compare I'm sure, but there are plenty of women out there who want their boyfriend to be more like Justin Beiber too.
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reader, cyburr +, writes (25 February 2013):
Your brain on porn . com
www.yourbrainonporn.com
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reader, Caring Aunty A  +, writes (25 February 2013):
 Excellent Question Anonymous! It’s succinct and concise.
It’s something that plagues a woman’s mind about her male or a males thinking…
It simply requires a YES and or NO to answer :)
Good Luck with getting short answers
Cheers CAA
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reader, Uncle PJ  +, writes (24 February 2013):
 For most guys no this is not the case. Porn stars and girlfriends are incomparable and usually completely different ends of the spectrum.
The general thing for us guys watching porn is to relieve ourselves. We don't tend to care who it is on screen, although some guys do have favourites which is fine unless they become obsessed, then you may have a problem.
The attraction to porn stars isn't really a long term one, they 'do a job' essentially. They look 'pretty' and get us off. If a guy had the chance to be with a porn star or their girlfriend, there aren't many that would choose the porn star.
The porn stars guys tend to like are usually the complete opposite to the type of girl they go for in real life. I'll use me as an example, I enjoy viewing babestation and the girls on it. But there isn't a single one I'd want to get with. In reality, I dislike tattoos, extra piercings and fake boobs or general fakery and all the babestation girls have an element of fakery which is extremely undesirable.
Sex with a girlfriend is happening because of the feelings we have for you. We want it to have a intimate feel because of the love we have for you. There's nothing to compare. Some inexperienced guys do tend to use their porn knowledge during sex and expect it to be similar because of their over exposure to it but that has nothing to do with you. Basically porn is a quick of getting off while a girlfriend is for love and intimacy.
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