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*ummybear16
writes:I am having some serious guy problems. We are like friends with benefits once in a while and we go well with each other. Any way we talk all the time and well I have giving him hints that I like him. He does send some hints every now and again. But like every guy that I have come across even my guy friends want to have sex with me. But I like this guy and I want to know if there is something wrong with me!?!
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (6 January 2012):
 there is nothing wrong with you but if you want more than FWB you must stop having sex with him.
I mean if I am dieting and someone offers me a cookie I might eat it anyway... not that I need or really WANTED the cookie but it's there, it's free and it's being served on a platter to me.
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reader, SonOfMan  +, writes (6 January 2012):
 Right now I'm a little confused!
If you want to take things further and make something of it you need to have a conversation with him about your feelings and see what he thinks and if he also wants to be committed. Otherwise just be happy single because this FWB business isn't worth it.
Be happy and fulfilled in other ways before the right person comes along who you are comfortable with and can trust. There is so much more to life than thinking where your next sexual fix is coming from. There's a right time for everything.
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reader, gummybear16 +, writes (6 January 2012):
gummybear16 is verified as being by the original poster of the question But the thing is he is my first guy I have ever had FWB with and my guy friends started this whole thing before I even did it the first time. And the guy that I am FWB with has not even said anything to his friends and only my mother knows that we are kinda doing something and a gave it about a month and a half before we even started to mess around after we agreed to be FWB. And the only reason why I am FWB with him is because I have been single for over a year and this guy has flirted with me and everything for about three months. I am so confused.
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reader, SonOfMan +, writes (6 January 2012):
Guys probably want to have sex with you because they know they can. Instead of giving hints (which some guys find hard to read) try talking to him openly.
More importantly you need to change how people see you by changing how you behave and maybe not give yourself to guys so easily.
Friends with benefits to me is a waste of time and energy and causes more problems.
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reader, k_c100  +, writes (6 January 2012):
 There is nothing wrong with you - it is just that you are giving sex away too easily and men dont take women seriously who have FWB's all the time.
What you need to do is NEVER have sex with any guy unless they want to be in a comitted relationship with you. Wait at least a month (ideally 2) before you have sex with them, that way they will see you are not easy and there for just sex, they will want more from you and take you seriously.
I think the problem will be that your guy friends will know you are FWB with this other guy, so they get the wrong idea about you and think that you are up for sex with whoever. So if you stop your FWB entirely and dont have sex with any guy that is not your boyfriend, in time guys will take you seriously and start considering you as girlfriend material.
I hope this helps and good luck!
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