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*ngela_Di
writes:I used my husband's laptop the other day and I went on his Facebook and read his messages. He had received a message from a girl that he used to go to college with, they might have even dated in the past. She was basically saying to him "I can't believe you got married so fast, blah blah.. and you should move to NY [where she's planning to move] open an office together, and have a crazy office affair". I don't know if she was joking or not, but I was really shocked to read this message, because I didn't think he had women telling him this type-of-thing. He replied to her that he's happy and in love, and that he is not moving anywhere. I was happy with his answer, however he didn't delete her from his buddy list, so that kinda upsets me a bit. Because in a way, it seems as if he's leaving "that option open". I checked out her pictures and profile, and she looks like a "party girl". Am I reading too much into this, do I have a reason to worry??? My husband is a great guy, but you never know right?! Any thoughts???
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reader, Angela_Di +, writes (15 July 2009):
Angela_Di is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks all for your answers, I truly appreciate them!!!I feel relieved, I guess I just overacted. My husband would never jeopardize what we have!
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reader, Angela_Di +, writes (15 July 2009):
Angela_Di is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks so much for your answers, I truly appreciate them!!!
I agree with most of your answers, I overreacted. I don't think my husband would ever do anything to jeopardize what we have.
Thanks again!:)
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reader, Angela_Di +, writes (15 July 2009):
Angela_Di is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks so much for your answers, I truly appreciate them!!!I agree with most of your answers, I overreacted. I don't think my husband would ever do anything to jeopardize what we have. Thanks again!:)
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 July 2009): dont read to much into it you`ll be fine unlike me im insecure,paranoid and terrified my husbands ex will win him over as he aint never told her he loves me or even happy with me
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reader, sexseahot +, writes (14 July 2009):
 You are reading too much into this. You may not have knew that ladies talk to him that way because he don't take it into consideration. He seems to be happy with you enough to let this "party girl" know after her suggestions. I think you are safe and I don't think he's gonna do anything to jeopardize what you guys have.
Good luck!
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reader, boo22  +, writes (14 July 2009):
 Hi there, remember that it is impossible for another woman to steal your husband. She can only take him if he allows it. It sounds like you've got a good one there so dont get upset. He wants to be with you x
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 July 2009): hey im christina.
i knew somebody who had the same problem...That first obstacle was passed because he replied with a basic answer that hes happily in love with you and and hes not going anywhere from you.And of course hes prolly not goin to delete her maybe cuz its a friend and only a friend i think he made that clear to her. but i understand that u can still feel that there could be somthing...so my advice would be to talk to him keeping this from him could only end up turning in the wrong direction...but it sounds like hes an understandable person.
good luck
--christina
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 July 2009): I don't think you have anything to worry about. Some sad women who need to get a life will try their luck and some seem to target married men - facebook is a good place to start. Your husband has shown he has self control, is not interested and he could not have given her a clearer message. I would say absolutely nothing to him. He is in control and he probably sees her for what she is - an obvious and desperate flirt. The best thing to do is to monitor your husbands actions to see if they change - I doubt they will.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 July 2009): She crossed the line with her message to him. When a "FRIEND" is in a relationship, and as long as that person is only a friend, then you do what you can to respect both individuals in the couple.
She clearly has destructive motives in her mind for her to even be able to write those words to a "friend" of hers who is in a relationship - happy or not.
I understand not wanting to let him know you were snooping on his facebook, but you need to make sure that you do not let this get to your head and that you do not lose any trust in him. Maybe nonchalantly ask him who she is and mention that it would make you more comfortable that if he ever had anything intimate with her, for him not to be in touch with her on networking sites such as facebook.
On another note, it is really sad how facebook has brought out the destruction of some relationships. Don't let a woman like her utilize something taht should be fun (facebook) to do that to you.
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