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writes:Is it possible to have a best friend of the opposite sex? It always seems to go south for me, but I really don't like how catty women can be. Most recent example: I had this guy "best friend" for 10 years, he surprises me by suddenly hitting on me while visiting, (I wasn't even the main reason he was visiting, he had this other girl in mind). I was so shocked that he took advantage of my hospitality during his visit and he knew I was not ready for a relationship. In short, my "best friend" turned on me and was acting completely out of character. So, we're not talking anymore...it's a shame. These kinds of experiences make me feel like guy friends aren't really possible, because of hormones. It seems men and women are better off in relationships or not, unless they're family.What are your thoughts?
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reader, JDinCali +, writes (19 February 2011):
JDinCali is verified as being by the original poster of the question Thank you for your answers.
Just so you know, this all happened last summer, I guess every now and then I miss him. Sometimes I think he's had too many concussions while in the military and lacking good judgment because of it. So you're right Kryssy; he's not the same person. Gabrielle42, it was definitely like getting hit on by a brother! Hibbie-jibbies indeed! lol.
I hope I'm able to regain a good guy friend again. I really miss the male perspective in life. Especially with all my recent dating fiascoes. Maybe that's why I like this sight so much! haha. :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 February 2011): I have 3 male best friends, we have been through thick and thin and I call them my soul brothers, we have known each other for 17 years, have crashed out together numerous times, and never ever have we done a thing.
So yes it is possible and i wouldnt change a thing about our friendship!
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reader, Gabrielle42 +, writes (18 February 2011):
My best friend is a guy and I'm a woman. I should let you know though that before we were friends he had had a crush on me for a few years but we weren't very close. When me and my boyfriend broke up, he was there for me (in more ways than one if you know what I mean.) It was a short fling but we got it out of both of our systems in the very beginning and now I consider him my best friend and very much like a brother. I can't imagine being with him like that ever again. Actually it kind of gives me the heebie jeebies ha. So if you're gonna have a best friend of the opposite sex I think that's the way to do it.
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reader, dirtball +, writes (18 February 2011):
 I tend to agree. It's rare, and can happen, but often men develop feelings for close female friends. They may never act on them, but they are usually there.
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reader, kryssy +, writes (18 February 2011):
 well, i think(hope) that guy friends are possible. i mean, i have a lot of guy friends, and i can always talk to them about everything, maybe this guy had just changed over the years. he's probably not the same guy you once knew..im sorry. i hope everything goes okay.
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